Robert D. Enright
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Robert D. Enright, PhD, is a licensed psychologist and professor of psychology at the University of Wisconsin, Madison
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Forgiveness Is a Choice: A Step-By-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope (Apa Lifetools) (2001) 111 exemplar
Helping Clients Forgive: An Empirical Guide for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope (2000) 26 exemplar
The Forgiving Life: A Pathway to Overcoming Resentment and Creating a Legacy of Love (APA Lifetools) (2012) 26 exemplar
Vergebung als Chance 1 exemplar
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- Robert D. Enright, Ph. D., is a licensed psychologist and professor of educational psychology at the University of Wisconsin, Madison. Since 1985, Professor Enright has pioneered the scientific study of how people forgive others who hurt them deeply and how the act of forgiving affects physical, mental, and emotional health. He is the recipient of numerous awards for both his teaching and his forgiveness studies. Professor Enright's work has appeared in such publications as Time, McCall's, the Wall Street Journal, the Washington Post, the Chicago Tribune, and the Los Angeles Times. He has appeared on the ABC's "20/20," NBC's "Nightly News," and many other television and radio shows and he has authored more 80 publications on the study of forgiveness and related areas. [from Forgiveness is a Choice (2001)]
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Helping Clients Forgive: An Empirical Guide for… av Robert D. Enright
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I decided to read this book after reading the excellent Before Forgiving : Cautionary Views of Forgiveness in Psychotherapy edited by psychologist Sharon Lamb and philosopher Jeffrie Murphy. Several of the contributors mentioned Enright unfavorably. Sharon Lamb, in her introduction, states that the advocates of unilateral forgiveness, “try to make it clear that forgiveness is not 'condoning' or 'excusing' or 'forgetting' or 'denying'” the behavior, but “in actual practice, forgiveness expressed often fails to communicate to an offender this essential promise.”
Robert Enright has a very strong definition of forgiveness, based on philosopher Joanna North:
"When unjustly hurt by another, we forgive when we overcome the resentment toward the offender, not by denying our right to the resentment, but instead by trying to offer the wrongdoer compassion, benevolence, and love; as we give these, we as forgivers realize that the offender does not necessarily have a right to such gifts."
And he has a work-intensive process for reaching that goal: writing a journal with essays on various questions. Most of the examples that he quotes are very serious offenses by intimates, so perhaps this book is really intended for such serious cases. I've never had anything really terrible happen to me, and I have occasionally forgiven people to the extent that Enright urges, minus all the journaling, but I have to think that the relationship is worth a lot to me. This was a good point that Jeanne Safer made in her Forgiving and Not Forgiving; our willingness to forgive in Enright's sense may depend on our relationship with the offender. It may also depend on the consequences of choosing whether or not to forgive.
Most people who have offended me simply aren't worth the effort. In some cases, even if the victim "forgives" the offender, some larger group may still mete out punishment. It is therefore the case that often smaller wrongs, which seem more forgivable, cannot be forgiven, especially not as Enright defines the word, simply because avoiding the unrepentant offender may be the only way to protect oneself, even if one does not remain hostile . Enright does recognize that forgiveness can be a process and anger may re-occur, which is realistic, and yet problematic.
Enright claims to have based his views on a study, but the results are not spelled out in any detail, we are just assured that they were promising and backed up his claims. He said that on a scale measuring the dislike of the victim (survivor if you prefer) toward the offender, there was improvement. When a friend of mine was murdered, I moved from feeling that only execution of the killer was acceptable, to be satisfied with life without parole. That may be an improvement, but it is nowhere near forgiveness.
I was left with the impression that Enright is motivated less by psychological realities than by philosophical and perhaps spiritual concerns, which weakens his case for me.
I also agree with Nick Smith in his book I Was Wrong : the Meaning of Apologies, that an apology should not include a request for forgiveness, as that puts the onus back on the victim/survivor. An apology basically should only express remorse and and understanding of wrong-doing. It is up to the victim/survivor to decide whether or not to offer forgiveness.… (mer)
Robert Enright has a very strong definition of forgiveness, based on philosopher Joanna North:
"When unjustly hurt by another, we forgive when we overcome the resentment toward the offender, not by denying our right to the resentment, but instead by trying to offer the wrongdoer compassion, benevolence, and love; as we give these, we as forgivers realize that the offender does not necessarily have a right to such gifts."
And he has a work-intensive process for reaching that goal: writing a journal with essays on various questions. Most of the examples that he quotes are very serious offenses by intimates, so perhaps this book is really intended for such serious cases. I've never had anything really terrible happen to me, and I have occasionally forgiven people to the extent that Enright urges, minus all the journaling, but I have to think that the relationship is worth a lot to me. This was a good point that Jeanne Safer made in her Forgiving and Not Forgiving; our willingness to forgive in Enright's sense may depend on our relationship with the offender. It may also depend on the consequences of choosing whether or not to forgive.
Most people who have offended me simply aren't worth the effort. In some cases, even if the victim "forgives" the offender, some larger group may still mete out punishment. It is therefore the case that often smaller wrongs, which seem more forgivable, cannot be forgiven, especially not as Enright defines the word, simply because avoiding the unrepentant offender may be the only way to protect oneself, even if one does not remain hostile . Enright does recognize that forgiveness can be a process and anger may re-occur, which is realistic, and yet problematic.
Enright claims to have based his views on a study, but the results are not spelled out in any detail, we are just assured that they were promising and backed up his claims. He said that on a scale measuring the dislike of the victim (survivor if you prefer) toward the offender, there was improvement. When a friend of mine was murdered, I moved from feeling that only execution of the killer was acceptable, to be satisfied with life without parole. That may be an improvement, but it is nowhere near forgiveness.
I was left with the impression that Enright is motivated less by psychological realities than by philosophical and perhaps spiritual concerns, which weakens his case for me.
I also agree with Nick Smith in his book I Was Wrong : the Meaning of Apologies, that an apology should not include a request for forgiveness, as that puts the onus back on the victim/survivor. An apology basically should only express remorse and and understanding of wrong-doing. It is up to the victim/survivor to decide whether or not to offer forgiveness.… (mer)
8 Keys to Forgiveness will challenge you and maybe even change your life. The opening sentence to the book is: "Forgiveness can change your life." The author then goes on to show you how. The book's exercises to help you forgive are worth the effort. This is rehab for a broken heart. Very highly recommended.
I really wanted to like this book and I really wanted to learn a lot from it because it came highly recommended to me. Instead I found it extremely superficial and disappointing.
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