M.S. Carl Weisman

This is one man’s investigation of why he is over 40 and not yet married. Since Weismann did not know his own reasons, he set out to ask other men their reasons in hopes of finding his reasons echoed back to him. In the course of his search, he surveyed 1500 men over 40 and interviewed 33. In the end he found that there are many reasons not to marry, but they are not the stereotypical ones society has led us to believe — at least not solely or even primarily.

So Why Have You Never Been Married focuses on men over 40, but the reasons these men reveal for never being married could just as easily apply to women. This book is part journey of self-discovery and part research. I found it very well done and respectful of the topic.

This is a book for both men over 40 who aren’t sure why they haven’t married and for anyone who is curious about why someone would not have married by 40 but has the good graces not to go around asking rude questions about personal choices. This is also a good book for single women who are nervous that there is something wrong a potential mate who’s unmarried at 40.

You can see more of my reviews at Booklorn.com.… (mer)

When I saw this title, I just had to pick up this book. "So Why Have You Never Been Married? 10 Insights Into Why He Hasn't Wed" by Carl Weisman is a truly fascinating look at the varying reasons behind the perennial bachelors we all know. What I found surprising were some of the recurring reasons...and they were NOT what I had always assumed! While the 'playboy' archetype was certainly present, it was not the overwhelming majority that I had assumed. Neither were most of these men anti-marriage or anti-love. Instead they are anti-mistake and anti-divorce and rather than suffer either of these states, they have remained in their bachelor status.

If you know an over 40 and never-been-married man and you've hesitated to subject him to your rabid curiosity, you should definitely read this book. If you're a younger woman faced with an unwilling-to-commit significant other, you should read this book. If you are just starting out in the 'dating game', then you'll want to read this book to get an idea of 'their' psyche vs. 'our' psyche. Different for sure, but always fascinating.… (mer)