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3Whisper1
BOOK Number 95
The Life of John F. Kennedy, Jr. America's Reluctant Prince by Steven M. Gillon
The author was a friend of JFK, Jr. While not a member of the inner circle, he was invited to various events, and was a professor of John in his undergraduate history classes.
Like many professors who taught John, there was a overwhelming note that John did not apply himself. He was lazy, coming to a professor the day a paper was due and asking what topic he should use for the paper, was a normal way of JFK, Jr.'s way of plodding through school.
His undergraduate total GPA was 2.2. Later after law school, once again, because of complacency, he failed the NY bar exam twice.
Many will remember the tiny boy child/son of John F. Kennedy, America's carasmatic president who was tragically assignated in November of 1963 at Dealy Plaza in Dallas, Texas.
It was this little son who bravely saluted his father's procession during the long service.
While not all the book portrayed him as lazy and bratty, he was a consummate risk taker.
Often, friends watched in terror as he performed actions that most would never attempt.
His mother had the strongest bond with him, and tried as best as possible to make him a normal child, person.
He married stunningly beautiful, self centered Caroline Basset. Their marriage was on the rocks when he took his plane in the air headed for Martha's Vineyard. The flying conditions were terrible, and seasoned pilots returned to the original airport because the haze created extremely dangerous conditions.
Pilots far more experienced returned, he kept going. His plane never reached the Kennedy compound. His body as well as his wife and her sister were found weeks later.
The Life of John F. Kennedy, Jr. America's Reluctant Prince by Steven M. Gillon
The author was a friend of JFK, Jr. While not a member of the inner circle, he was invited to various events, and was a professor of John in his undergraduate history classes.
Like many professors who taught John, there was a overwhelming note that John did not apply himself. He was lazy, coming to a professor the day a paper was due and asking what topic he should use for the paper, was a normal way of JFK, Jr.'s way of plodding through school.
His undergraduate total GPA was 2.2. Later after law school, once again, because of complacency, he failed the NY bar exam twice.
Many will remember the tiny boy child/son of John F. Kennedy, America's carasmatic president who was tragically assignated in November of 1963 at Dealy Plaza in Dallas, Texas.
It was this little son who bravely saluted his father's procession during the long service.
While not all the book portrayed him as lazy and bratty, he was a consummate risk taker.
Often, friends watched in terror as he performed actions that most would never attempt.
His mother had the strongest bond with him, and tried as best as possible to make him a normal child, person.
He married stunningly beautiful, self centered Caroline Basset. Their marriage was on the rocks when he took his plane in the air headed for Martha's Vineyard. The flying conditions were terrible, and seasoned pilots returned to the original airport because the haze created extremely dangerous conditions.
Pilots far more experienced returned, he kept going. His plane never reached the Kennedy compound. His body as well as his wife and her sister were found weeks later.
6BLBera
Happy new thread, Linda. I love your topper.
>3 Whisper1: It sounds like a wasted life. Whenever I see his sister, I always wonder how she has managed to survive so much loss.
>3 Whisper1: It sounds like a wasted life. Whenever I see his sister, I always wonder how she has managed to survive so much loss.
7m.belljackson
>3 Whisper1: Nice JFK, Jr. coincidence here, Linda - I just started WHAT REMAINS by Carole Radziwill, which leads off with that tragic crash.
She was a working girl who married his cousin, Anthony Radziwill, and Carolyn was her best friend. Early chapters are strangely fascinating.
She was a working girl who married his cousin, Anthony Radziwill, and Carolyn was her best friend. Early chapters are strangely fascinating.
10FAMeulstee
Happy new thread, Linda!
11msf59
Happy New Thread, Linda. I hope you had a good weekend and that your pain levels are at a tolerable level.
12Caroline_McElwee
>3 Whisper1: I recently watched a documentary on the Kennedy's, which had something on John Jnr. I wondered if having such a famous father and uncles, clever, if with such tragic ends, made him feel he would never be able to compete. That his fame was vapid, inherited etc. His death was sad certainly, but reckless, he shouldn't have taken others with him.
13karenmarie
Hi Linda, and happy new thread.
I'm sorry to read about the broken rod and compound fracture of the spine. {{hugs}}
>3 Whisper1: Ah, I didn't realize that he was not cut from the same cloth as his parents.
I'm sorry to read about the broken rod and compound fracture of the spine. {{hugs}}
>3 Whisper1: Ah, I didn't realize that he was not cut from the same cloth as his parents.
14thornton37814
Happy new thread! I'm sorry to read of the continued spinal problems. Prayers.
15johnsimpson
Hi Linda my dear, Happy New Thread, and so sorry to hear of your continued spinal problems. Sending special Yorkshire healing love and hugs from both of us dear friend.
16Whisper1
>2 drneutron: Thanks Jim!
>4 SirThomas: Hello Tom!
>5 quondame: Hi Susan. Yes, a mess of a promising life is true. So often people lament about the Kennedy curse. Personally, I think so much of it is brought on by themselves.
>6 BLBera: Beth, the author noted that while JFK, Jr and his sister Caroline were close when they were young, they broke apart. She felt her brother was foolish and unstable. He felt her husband interfered too much in family matters, and that he really was not a family member.
>7 m.belljackson: Hi Marianne. The book I finished focused on the special relationship John had with his cousin Anthony, and the fact he was with his cousin throughout his fight with cancer.
I've added What Remains to my to be read list.
>8 weird_O: Hello Bill. I hope all is well. Is your house in a wooded area, or near Leaser Lake?
>9 PaulCranswick: Hi Paul. I found illustrated books by the team of Joyce Sidmam a Newbery Honor winner, and Pamela Zagarenski an accomplished Caldecott Honor winner, and I am hooked! The combination is lovely, and the illustrations are very unique.
>10 FAMeulstee: Hi Anita, Are you and Frank still on your hiking mission?
>11 msf59: Thanks for your kind words Mark!
>12 Caroline_McElwee: Caroline, I agree with your insight. The author notes that while John was continually trying to be a normal person, and he was outgoing and interactive, he often sought danger. And, I agree that he never should have risked the life of others.
>13 karenmarie: HI Karen. He did indeed have a charmed life. But, one of the things that bothered me about his mother, the famous Jackie Kennedy, is that she did not tell her children of the death of their father, she left that to the nanny to handle. And because she was in such deep depression, she spent little time with the children and basically did not console them at all.
>14 thornton37814: HI Lori. Many thanks. As always, I am impressed with the number off books you read. When I last checked your thread it was a goodly number!
>15 johnsimpson: Hello Friend John. I can only imagine how beautiful it is where you and Karen live.
>4 SirThomas: Hello Tom!
>5 quondame: Hi Susan. Yes, a mess of a promising life is true. So often people lament about the Kennedy curse. Personally, I think so much of it is brought on by themselves.
>6 BLBera: Beth, the author noted that while JFK, Jr and his sister Caroline were close when they were young, they broke apart. She felt her brother was foolish and unstable. He felt her husband interfered too much in family matters, and that he really was not a family member.
>7 m.belljackson: Hi Marianne. The book I finished focused on the special relationship John had with his cousin Anthony, and the fact he was with his cousin throughout his fight with cancer.
I've added What Remains to my to be read list.
>8 weird_O: Hello Bill. I hope all is well. Is your house in a wooded area, or near Leaser Lake?
>9 PaulCranswick: Hi Paul. I found illustrated books by the team of Joyce Sidmam a Newbery Honor winner, and Pamela Zagarenski an accomplished Caldecott Honor winner, and I am hooked! The combination is lovely, and the illustrations are very unique.
>10 FAMeulstee: Hi Anita, Are you and Frank still on your hiking mission?
>11 msf59: Thanks for your kind words Mark!
>12 Caroline_McElwee: Caroline, I agree with your insight. The author notes that while John was continually trying to be a normal person, and he was outgoing and interactive, he often sought danger. And, I agree that he never should have risked the life of others.
>13 karenmarie: HI Karen. He did indeed have a charmed life. But, one of the things that bothered me about his mother, the famous Jackie Kennedy, is that she did not tell her children of the death of their father, she left that to the nanny to handle. And because she was in such deep depression, she spent little time with the children and basically did not console them at all.
>14 thornton37814: HI Lori. Many thanks. As always, I am impressed with the number off books you read. When I last checked your thread it was a goodly number!
>15 johnsimpson: Hello Friend John. I can only imagine how beautiful it is where you and Karen live.
17Whisper1
BOOK #96
The Queen's Rival by Diane Haeger
Elizabeth (Bess) Blout was sent to court to take the place of her mother while her father recovered from wounds received in the war with France fighting alongside King Henry VIII.
Bess was young, beautiful and naive. The politics of the court were dangerous and finding a way throughout the gossip and nastiness was no easy feat. Fortunately, Bess developed friendship with Gil Tailbois and Elizabeth Bryant.
As she grew into a stunning woman, she caught the eyes of Henry. All too soon, she was trapped in his net of women to conquer. Bess loved Henry, and their sexual unions produced a son.
Because Henry's wife, The religiously pious Katherine of Aragon, could not produce a son, Henry's obsession grew increasingly more profound. Katherine produced a daughter, Mary, but no son.
Bess was sent away from court with her son who looked very much like Henry. Bess' friend Gil always stood by her, and loved her deeply. When he proposed marriage, she accepted.
Alas. when the baby was a year old, Henry who had never bothered to visit his baby son, now brought him to court and would not let him return to his mother.
I've read many books regarding the Tudors. This one was well written and captivating.
After the severe pain of Henry's rejection, and then selfishness is taking her son away, Gil was stalwart in his love. Together, they had three children. After he died, Bess re-married, and produced another three children.
Sadly, she died at the age of 38 from consumption, a disease that most likely robbed her son Henry, Lord Rochfield before she died.
The Queen's Rival by Diane Haeger
Elizabeth (Bess) Blout was sent to court to take the place of her mother while her father recovered from wounds received in the war with France fighting alongside King Henry VIII.
Bess was young, beautiful and naive. The politics of the court were dangerous and finding a way throughout the gossip and nastiness was no easy feat. Fortunately, Bess developed friendship with Gil Tailbois and Elizabeth Bryant.
As she grew into a stunning woman, she caught the eyes of Henry. All too soon, she was trapped in his net of women to conquer. Bess loved Henry, and their sexual unions produced a son.
Because Henry's wife, The religiously pious Katherine of Aragon, could not produce a son, Henry's obsession grew increasingly more profound. Katherine produced a daughter, Mary, but no son.
Bess was sent away from court with her son who looked very much like Henry. Bess' friend Gil always stood by her, and loved her deeply. When he proposed marriage, she accepted.
Alas. when the baby was a year old, Henry who had never bothered to visit his baby son, now brought him to court and would not let him return to his mother.
I've read many books regarding the Tudors. This one was well written and captivating.
After the severe pain of Henry's rejection, and then selfishness is taking her son away, Gil was stalwart in his love. Together, they had three children. After he died, Bess re-married, and produced another three children.
Sadly, she died at the age of 38 from consumption, a disease that most likely robbed her son Henry, Lord Rochfield before she died.
18jessibud2
Better late than never: happy new thread, Linda! I think I may have read the JFK Jr book you mention above but it was before LT so I don't have a record of it. But I have read a lot about that family. I also read the book Marianne mentions, What Remains and it was very sad.
19Whisper1
>18 jessibud2: Hi Shelley. We are experiencing a heat wave like never before. I am inside reading.
I will try to obtain What Remains soon.
I will try to obtain What Remains soon.
20Whisper1
BOOK #97
Be Fierce by Gretchen Carlson
When Gretchen Carlson brought a harassment complaint against Fox News Chairperson, Roger Ailes, she not only spoke about what occurred to her, but she carefully outlines the reasons and justification used for harassment in the workplace that is long term and far reaching.
I admit this was a difficult book for me to read. I was harassed in many jobs I had. The feeling of helplessness remains long after years have passed.
Insightful, wonderfully written, this is the woman who stood up to a powerful man knowing it would mean the end of her career at Fox. Her bravery started the global #Me2 movement wherein women banded together to end this travesty.
Be Fierce by Gretchen Carlson
When Gretchen Carlson brought a harassment complaint against Fox News Chairperson, Roger Ailes, she not only spoke about what occurred to her, but she carefully outlines the reasons and justification used for harassment in the workplace that is long term and far reaching.
I admit this was a difficult book for me to read. I was harassed in many jobs I had. The feeling of helplessness remains long after years have passed.
Insightful, wonderfully written, this is the woman who stood up to a powerful man knowing it would mean the end of her career at Fox. Her bravery started the global #Me2 movement wherein women banded together to end this travesty.
21jessibud2
We are experiencing the same intense heat and high humidity here too, Linda. I hate it. I am only going out when necessary. Got my hair cut this afternoon so that felt good. We got a bit of rain but hardly enough to matter to the garden so I went out to water the tomatoes and the potted plants.
22m.belljackson
>16 Whisper1: Hello again, Linda - I can send you WHAT REMAINS, but you might want to read other's reviews first -
it is immensely sad and may bring back memories of your hospital times with Will.
At times, shared experiences can bring a measure of comfort; other times, not at all...
it is immensely sad and may bring back memories of your hospital times with Will.
At times, shared experiences can bring a measure of comfort; other times, not at all...
23Whisper1
>21 jessibud2: Shelley, fortunately, we've had rain every night. Still, by morning, it is exceedingly hot. Like you, I only go out when I have to. I went grocery shopping earlier this morning before it got too hot.
>22 m.belljackson: Hi Marianne. Thank you so much for your sensitivity.
>22 m.belljackson: Hi Marianne. Thank you so much for your sensitivity.
24tymfos
Hello, Linda. Belated happy new thread! I'm very sorry to hear that there are yet more spinal issues. You have been through so much of that! Sending caring thoughts your way, and prayers heavenward for healing.
25Berly
Happy new thread dear Linda!! I remember hearing about JFK Jr's plane crashing. I was so sad. The book sounds quite good.
26laytonwoman3rd
Hi, Linda. I'm glad you've been able to finish a few books, in spite of the renewed pain and worry about yet another surgery. As always, I wish you strength and relief. You are a strong lady, but you deserve a respite.
27Whisper1
>24 tymfos: Hi Terri. May thanks for stopping by. I deeply appreciate your kind message.
>25 Berly: Hi Kim. The book was chock full of information. While the author had a good relationship with JFK, Jr., he did not shy away from the depiction of his mother who did not provide the news to the children regarding their father's death. She left that up to the nanny. And, because she was so very depressed, she rarely saw the children for a some-what long period of time. This was when the children needed her the most.
Also, he accurately depicted a young boy and then a grown man who was reckless in his dangerous pursuits. He felt there was no curse of the Kennedy's. They could be selfish and reckless.
>26 laytonwoman3rd: Hi Linda. Thanks for your visit and lovely message. I haven't visited the threads a lot. I hope all is well with you!
>25 Berly: Hi Kim. The book was chock full of information. While the author had a good relationship with JFK, Jr., he did not shy away from the depiction of his mother who did not provide the news to the children regarding their father's death. She left that up to the nanny. And, because she was so very depressed, she rarely saw the children for a some-what long period of time. This was when the children needed her the most.
Also, he accurately depicted a young boy and then a grown man who was reckless in his dangerous pursuits. He felt there was no curse of the Kennedy's. They could be selfish and reckless.
>26 laytonwoman3rd: Hi Linda. Thanks for your visit and lovely message. I haven't visited the threads a lot. I hope all is well with you!
28Whisper1
GOOD NEWS
Yesterday, I met with an area well-respected neurosurgeon. He was blunt and very honest. I liked him. He said nine surgeries were too many, and while he thought highly of Dr. Alexander Vaccaro from Thomas Jefferson hospital in Philadelphia, he stated that the major ten-hour surgery to put the rods in my spine, has caused so much of the problems.
He strongly stated that the operation should never have occurred. I was Mid 50's when it occurred. This, he said was wrong. My bones were already very soft, and the osteoectomy was for a 20-25 year old whose bones were more stable than my degenerative condition.
All surgeries after that were from broken hardware, rods that could not hold the pins, and then there were more and more and more surgeries.
He stated that while he knows the hardware is compromised, all these surgeries can lead to another more dangerous possibility -- paralysis. He will not touch the hardware for fear it would cause complications that could not be rectified.
Because the major issue is pain, which is why I had all the surgeries, I was listening to surgeons who thought surgery was the answer. the surgeries only put me more at risk and truly never worked.
I will have a pain pump infusion with a lead fed from the device which carries the medication, right into my spine. The doctor said the operation will be two hours, and based on years of experience, he strongly believes it will great help the pain, and may in fact eliminate it. The downside is that every three months I will need to have a procedure to open the area where the pump is located (in my abdomen) so that a renewed batch of medication will be inserted in the pump. Finally, I feel as though I have the right person to address the problem.
I am quite sure if I would have gone to the previous surgeon who performed four of the nine surgeries, he would recommend yet more operations on the hardware.
I came out of office smiling, thinking finally someone listened and had a plan to deal with this nasty, uncontrollable pain
Yesterday, I met with an area well-respected neurosurgeon. He was blunt and very honest. I liked him. He said nine surgeries were too many, and while he thought highly of Dr. Alexander Vaccaro from Thomas Jefferson hospital in Philadelphia, he stated that the major ten-hour surgery to put the rods in my spine, has caused so much of the problems.
He strongly stated that the operation should never have occurred. I was Mid 50's when it occurred. This, he said was wrong. My bones were already very soft, and the osteoectomy was for a 20-25 year old whose bones were more stable than my degenerative condition.
All surgeries after that were from broken hardware, rods that could not hold the pins, and then there were more and more and more surgeries.
He stated that while he knows the hardware is compromised, all these surgeries can lead to another more dangerous possibility -- paralysis. He will not touch the hardware for fear it would cause complications that could not be rectified.
Because the major issue is pain, which is why I had all the surgeries, I was listening to surgeons who thought surgery was the answer. the surgeries only put me more at risk and truly never worked.
I will have a pain pump infusion with a lead fed from the device which carries the medication, right into my spine. The doctor said the operation will be two hours, and based on years of experience, he strongly believes it will great help the pain, and may in fact eliminate it. The downside is that every three months I will need to have a procedure to open the area where the pump is located (in my abdomen) so that a renewed batch of medication will be inserted in the pump. Finally, I feel as though I have the right person to address the problem.
I am quite sure if I would have gone to the previous surgeon who performed four of the nine surgeries, he would recommend yet more operations on the hardware.
I came out of office smiling, thinking finally someone listened and had a plan to deal with this nasty, uncontrollable pain
29Whisper1
BOOK #98
Killing the Mob: The Fight Against Organized Crime in America by Bill O'Reilly
While I am not a fan of the bombastic Bill O'Reilly, I did like this particular book.
It contains a look at the early criminals, Bonnie and Clyde, Baby Face Nelson, and Dillinger, and then proceeds to the current time when the mob is still present, but has lost a lot of leaders.
There are tales of shoot outs, slimy men who underhandedly controlled the Los Vegas casinos, politicians, and to some extent J. Edgar Hoover, whom the author thought was blackmailed by the mob because of his sexual preferences.
There is speculation about conspiracy plots, the death of John Kennedy in Dallas, the missing body of Hoffa, a Union boss who after a jail sentence, despite rules forbidding him to return to his previous position, blatantly claimed his previous job once again.
This is a quick read, some of which is factual, other events seems speculative.
Killing the Mob: The Fight Against Organized Crime in America by Bill O'Reilly
While I am not a fan of the bombastic Bill O'Reilly, I did like this particular book.
It contains a look at the early criminals, Bonnie and Clyde, Baby Face Nelson, and Dillinger, and then proceeds to the current time when the mob is still present, but has lost a lot of leaders.
There are tales of shoot outs, slimy men who underhandedly controlled the Los Vegas casinos, politicians, and to some extent J. Edgar Hoover, whom the author thought was blackmailed by the mob because of his sexual preferences.
There is speculation about conspiracy plots, the death of John Kennedy in Dallas, the missing body of Hoffa, a Union boss who after a jail sentence, despite rules forbidding him to return to his previous position, blatantly claimed his previous job once again.
This is a quick read, some of which is factual, other events seems speculative.
30jessibud2
>28 Whisper1: - Well, Linda, This IS good news, that you found someone who not only listens but who seems to know and understand the problem to its core. I do hope that he is right about the pain. How did you find this guy?
Is there no way they can refill the pump via a port of some kind (like people have for chemo) without having to open the area on your abdomen every 3 months? Maybe I am not understanding this well. Anyhow, I look forward to much better days ahead for you!
Is there no way they can refill the pump via a port of some kind (like people have for chemo) without having to open the area on your abdomen every 3 months? Maybe I am not understanding this well. Anyhow, I look forward to much better days ahead for you!
31Caroline_McElwee
>28 Whisper1: That is such wonderful news Linda. Celebrating with you. Once you have had the pump inserted, and felt it's benefits, I'm sure the quarterly procedure will feel justified.
32laytonwoman3rd
Oh, Linda...finally a hopeful prognosis for pain management that does not involve major spinal surgery! You must be so relieved.
33FAMeulstee
>28 Whisper1: So glad you found a doctor who listened, Linda. I hope this procedure will help you, so you won't be in pain much longer.
(((hugs)))
(((hugs)))
35m.belljackson
Linda - What a wonderful change from what you have endured!
Good Surgery This Time with the promise of pain long gone and a full life ahead.
Prayers will be coming to you from many long distances for a smooth surgery and a lively recovery.
Good Surgery This Time with the promise of pain long gone and a full life ahead.
Prayers will be coming to you from many long distances for a smooth surgery and a lively recovery.
36Whisper1
>30 jessibud2: Shelley. I will know more about the pump before I undergo the surgery. Thanks for providing a question that I will need to ask the surgeon regarding the port. Much appreciated!
>31 Caroline_McElwee: Caroline. One of the things I've missed is trips to New York City to see art at the Metropolitan art museum. Thanks for your kind wishes!
>32 laytonwoman3rd: Linda. I look forward to a life with no, or minimal pain. I feel I've lost so much time in dealing with pain issues and nedless surgeries. I appreciate your kindness.
>33 FAMeulstee: Thanks so much Anita. You continue to be a steadfast friend. I am blessed.
>34 SirThomas: Thanks Tom. I look forward to the ability to visit the threads more often.
>35 m.belljackson: Hi Marianne. Thanks for your good wishes and prayers. I appreciate and need them.
>31 Caroline_McElwee: Caroline. One of the things I've missed is trips to New York City to see art at the Metropolitan art museum. Thanks for your kind wishes!
>32 laytonwoman3rd: Linda. I look forward to a life with no, or minimal pain. I feel I've lost so much time in dealing with pain issues and nedless surgeries. I appreciate your kindness.
>33 FAMeulstee: Thanks so much Anita. You continue to be a steadfast friend. I am blessed.
>34 SirThomas: Thanks Tom. I look forward to the ability to visit the threads more often.
>35 m.belljackson: Hi Marianne. Thanks for your good wishes and prayers. I appreciate and need them.
37Whisper1
BOOK #99
Bettyville by George Hodgman
How I wish I could write as beautifully as the author. This is his story of his commitment to his 91 year old mother. George moves from a life in Manhattan, NY to care for his mother in small town Missouri. This is the tale of adjustment to living with his cantankerous mother who daily presents challenges for patience.
She is a character in every way. She is forward, kind, resilient, overbearing, sneaky, and loving, always loving!
She insists on wearing mismatched clothing while she demands to keep her well-worn sandals on her feet. A beautiful woman when young, like all who grow older, the wrinkles deepen while her spirit remains steadfast.
George calmly deals with her slide into forgetfulness, while admiring her stamina to undergo chemo for her cancer.
The town is small, but the beauty is large.
This excellently written, heart-felt homage to a mother who raised and loved her gay son is stunningly, beautifully embraced with crystal sharpness, and each page contains a tear and a smile. They grow together in acceptance of each other that calls forth as the days slip away.
Read this one. I don't think you will be disappointed!
Five Stars
Bettyville by George Hodgman
How I wish I could write as beautifully as the author. This is his story of his commitment to his 91 year old mother. George moves from a life in Manhattan, NY to care for his mother in small town Missouri. This is the tale of adjustment to living with his cantankerous mother who daily presents challenges for patience.
She is a character in every way. She is forward, kind, resilient, overbearing, sneaky, and loving, always loving!
She insists on wearing mismatched clothing while she demands to keep her well-worn sandals on her feet. A beautiful woman when young, like all who grow older, the wrinkles deepen while her spirit remains steadfast.
George calmly deals with her slide into forgetfulness, while admiring her stamina to undergo chemo for her cancer.
The town is small, but the beauty is large.
This excellently written, heart-felt homage to a mother who raised and loved her gay son is stunningly, beautifully embraced with crystal sharpness, and each page contains a tear and a smile. They grow together in acceptance of each other that calls forth as the days slip away.
Read this one. I don't think you will be disappointed!
Five Stars
38cyderry
>28 Whisper1: Yeah! so glad that it seems that there is a doctor who can finally help! I'm keeping my fingers crossed that this is the solution!
39LizzieD
>28 Whisper1: Dear Linda, Dear Linda! I am gladder than I can say that I visited your thread today! Like everybody else, I find it next to miraculous that you don't have to have more invasive surgery and that you will get some relief. I know that you will ask the right questions and do what is best. You'll find great numbers of us around the world being thankful for such good news!!!!!
Meanwhile, keep reading and letting us know what you think!
Meanwhile, keep reading and letting us know what you think!
40magicians_nephew
The Gretchen Carlson book sounds like a good one. The movie of Bombshell
told the story of Carlson and her suit against the loathsome Roger Ailes for whom there is not corner of Hell hot enough to do him justice.
Much cheering here about the news about your pain pump. Happy to see you getting relief after all this time.
The book about Henry VIII sounds interesting (LT Autocorrect changed it to Heavy VIII which probably fits too) I had forgotten that Henry actually went to France for the siege of Boulogne - it was a brave and risky thing to do.
I have heard good things about Bill O'Reilly's history books - apparently he works with a good research team and co-writer. It was hard for me to go in and plunk down money to buy a Book with O'Reilly's name on it, but the Lincoln book was solid and the book on Jesus surprisingly well done.
Doing my happy Snoopy dance to think of you free from these years of constant pain. Goddess walk with you in this hopeful time.
told the story of Carlson and her suit against the loathsome Roger Ailes for whom there is not corner of Hell hot enough to do him justice.
Much cheering here about the news about your pain pump. Happy to see you getting relief after all this time.
The book about Henry VIII sounds interesting (LT Autocorrect changed it to Heavy VIII which probably fits too) I had forgotten that Henry actually went to France for the siege of Boulogne - it was a brave and risky thing to do.
I have heard good things about Bill O'Reilly's history books - apparently he works with a good research team and co-writer. It was hard for me to go in and plunk down money to buy a Book with O'Reilly's name on it, but the Lincoln book was solid and the book on Jesus surprisingly well done.
Doing my happy Snoopy dance to think of you free from these years of constant pain. Goddess walk with you in this hopeful time.
41quondame
>28 Whisper1: Oh I'm so glad that their is something that will give you real help with the pain. I am always appalled by the wrong-focused medical practices out there that overtreat or overlook conditions to the detriment of patients.
42streamsong
I'm joining in the celebration - oh I am so hopeful that you will have your pain managed and can resume more of your favorite activities!
>37 Whisper1: sounds like a fun read. Book #99! Hope you have something special lined up for the next one.
>37 Whisper1: sounds like a fun read. Book #99! Hope you have something special lined up for the next one.
43Caroline_McElwee
>37 Whisper1: On the list it goes.
45thornton37814
I am so happy you have some encouraging news on the pain front with a new doctor. Sometimes those "second opinions" are really needed! It sounds like yours was.
46Dianekeenoy
>37 Whisper1: I loved this book!!!!!
47Whisper1
>38 cyderry: Hello Friend Cheli. I hope all is well with you. Thank you, as always, for your words of encouragement.
>39 LizzieD: Thank you dear, sweat Peggy. I am grateful for you!
>40 magicians_nephew: I haven't seen the movie regarding Gretchen Carlson and her search to bring Roger Allies accountable. Was Bill O'Reilly in that mix of those who harassed her?
Thanks, as always, for your emotional support. It means a lot.
>41 quondame: I am most disappointed in the pain management doctor I've known for 20 plus years. His solution was to give injections filled with steroids.
But, as mentioned, NO ONE said anything about an infusion pump. This was the first I've ever heard about it.
I came out of the neurosurgeon's office smiling, and with tears in my eyes. Finally, someone listened that my issue is pain that is uncontrollable. I've maxed out on Dilaudid, and it is no longer effective because I've used this drug for 15 years. I refuse to have more pills. That is not a solution for me.
Also, of interest is the fact that I had the appointment on Monday. The very next day, I received a phone call from the pain management department of the hospital. This is the doctor whom this new neurosurgeon recommended. He will be the person who determines the strength of medication and the dosage that will be placed in the pump.
His office manager told me he was going on vacation. She promised to call me back ASAP after she talked to the pain management doctor to plead my case that I need help before he goes on vacation. She called right back with a September 7th option!
>42 streamsong: Thanks Janet. I appreciate your support!
>43 Caroline_McElwee: Caroline, I think you will like this book.
>44 BLBera: Beth, Thanks for wishing me good luck. I appreciate all the support you give to me!
>45 thornton37814: Thanks Lori. I am very excited. I appreciate your kindness!
>46 Dianekeenoy: Diane, chances are that you were the one who recommended this book. Once again, we read and enjoy similar books. I miss the Bethlehem Library book sales, and our times together!
>39 LizzieD: Thank you dear, sweat Peggy. I am grateful for you!
>40 magicians_nephew: I haven't seen the movie regarding Gretchen Carlson and her search to bring Roger Allies accountable. Was Bill O'Reilly in that mix of those who harassed her?
Thanks, as always, for your emotional support. It means a lot.
>41 quondame: I am most disappointed in the pain management doctor I've known for 20 plus years. His solution was to give injections filled with steroids.
But, as mentioned, NO ONE said anything about an infusion pump. This was the first I've ever heard about it.
I came out of the neurosurgeon's office smiling, and with tears in my eyes. Finally, someone listened that my issue is pain that is uncontrollable. I've maxed out on Dilaudid, and it is no longer effective because I've used this drug for 15 years. I refuse to have more pills. That is not a solution for me.
Also, of interest is the fact that I had the appointment on Monday. The very next day, I received a phone call from the pain management department of the hospital. This is the doctor whom this new neurosurgeon recommended. He will be the person who determines the strength of medication and the dosage that will be placed in the pump.
His office manager told me he was going on vacation. She promised to call me back ASAP after she talked to the pain management doctor to plead my case that I need help before he goes on vacation. She called right back with a September 7th option!
>42 streamsong: Thanks Janet. I appreciate your support!
>43 Caroline_McElwee: Caroline, I think you will like this book.
>44 BLBera: Beth, Thanks for wishing me good luck. I appreciate all the support you give to me!
>45 thornton37814: Thanks Lori. I am very excited. I appreciate your kindness!
>46 Dianekeenoy: Diane, chances are that you were the one who recommended this book. Once again, we read and enjoy similar books. I miss the Bethlehem Library book sales, and our times together!
48LizzieD
Oh Linda! I hate that you have to wait until the first week of September, but since that is better than you might expect, I'll be grateful. You have waited way, way, way too long already. Wishing you some peace in the meantime!
49karenmarie
Dearest Linda:
>28 Whisper1: Congratulations on this positive news. I’m very happy for you that you have found the right doctor and with a potentially pain-free outcome.
>29 Whisper1: While I am not a fan of the bombastic Bill O'Reilly, I did like this particular book. I recently read Killing Lincoln by O’Reilly and Dugard and loved it. I have the same problem with O'Reilly that you do. This is what I wrote in my review: So for the elephant in the room: I despise Bill O’Reilly. Truly think he’s an awful human being. However, this book is a real winner. Killing Kennedy is on my shelves, just waiting for the right time to get into the emotional rollercoaster of the assassination.
>28 Whisper1: Congratulations on this positive news. I’m very happy for you that you have found the right doctor and with a potentially pain-free outcome.
>29 Whisper1: While I am not a fan of the bombastic Bill O'Reilly, I did like this particular book. I recently read Killing Lincoln by O’Reilly and Dugard and loved it. I have the same problem with O'Reilly that you do. This is what I wrote in my review: So for the elephant in the room: I despise Bill O’Reilly. Truly think he’s an awful human being. However, this book is a real winner. Killing Kennedy is on my shelves, just waiting for the right time to get into the emotional rollercoaster of the assassination.
50msf59
Glad to hear the good health news, Linda. We all know you have been struggling with these serious issues for years. I pray a solution has been found.
51bell7
Happy new thread, Linda!
I'm enjoying your thoughtful reviews and glad to see you enjoying so many of them. Most of all, I'm SO HAPPY for the good news that you may have a solution to your pain that doesn't involve more spinal surgeries. Praying for you and your doctors as you make that happen!
I'm enjoying your thoughtful reviews and glad to see you enjoying so many of them. Most of all, I'm SO HAPPY for the good news that you may have a solution to your pain that doesn't involve more spinal surgeries. Praying for you and your doctors as you make that happen!
52Berly
>28 Whisper1: I am loving your good news!! I hope the pain pump works--you deserve a better, happy life. : ) And I am so glad they managed to squeeze you in. September isn't that far off after all you've been through. Hang in there!
>37 Whisper1: Bettyville sounds like a good one!!
>37 Whisper1: Bettyville sounds like a good one!!
53jayde1599
Hi Linda! I am glad you finally found a doctor who listened and is willing to try a different solution! I hope it will give you some relief.
I put Bettyville on my wishlist. Thanks for the review!
I put Bettyville on my wishlist. Thanks for the review!
54Oregonreader
Linda, I've been absent for awhile but I'm glad I'm back to read of your good news. I'm sorry you have to wait until September but hopefully the easing of your pain is near.
55m.belljackson
Linda - You and Lilly doing okay? and, did book arrive safely?
56Carmenere
Greetings, Linda! I'm hoping you're doing well despite having to wait til Sept 7th for pain therapy. Any chance they snuck you in earlier? It seems like help is just around the corner but still out of grasp. Thinking about you always and sending positive thoughts your way. :)
57m.belljackson
Concern again, Linda, since it's been eleven days since your last post - hope it is just a computer problem.
58SirThomas
>37 Whisper1: You hit me with this BB, Linda.
I have it on hold at the library and am waiting for it to become available.
I hope you are doing well!
I have it on hold at the library and am waiting for it to become available.
I hope you are doing well!
59Caroline_McElwee
Your appointment is getting nearer Linda, I hope it provides the pain management you need.
60Whisper1
Hello, and thank you to everyone!
I haven't posted because I've been in a slump, thinking too much of the next surgery and recovery, and then remembering that Will is not going to be there when I awake. Such is grief in that it smacks you when you least expect it.
Overall, I am doing well. I know the surgery is needed and I am glad there is a solution for uncontrollable pain.
Though, there are so many wonderful things happening.
Three of my four grandchildren are incoming freshmen in college.
The rose bushes continue to bloom in both the front and back gardens.
There is one very large coral-colored zinnia that I cultivated this year. It produces many seeds for next year. And, shortly after I snap the flower that is ready to be plucked for seeds, a new flower begins to appear.
I have a lot of zinnia, cone flower, marigold seeds for next year's gardens.
I'll hire someone to ripe out the seven butterfly bushes that took over the area in the back of the yard. The heat is too much for the bushes and non faired well this year.
I deeply appreciate all the supportive, kind comments. Thank you just doesn't suffice to explain how much in means to have found such a caring group of great souls!
61Whisper1
BOOK #100
What Remains: A Memoir of Fate, Friendship, and Love
by Carole Radziwill
Carole Radziwill was a talented, award-winning journalist when she met Anthony Radziwill, the cousin of JFK, Jr. When they worked together, they soon developed a loving relationship.
This is a story of her ten-year journey with her husband who struggled with incurable cancer. He died shortly after John, his wife and her sister died in a plane piloted by John who flew his plane under unfavorable weather conditions. She lost the love of her life, her best friend, and her husband's cousin and best friend, all in a short period of time.
While heart felt and well written, I struggled with all the stories of the lush life of NYC, the gowns, the parties, the many foreign vacations the four of them went together.
Worth the read, but it took awhile to sort through it all.
What Remains: A Memoir of Fate, Friendship, and Love
by Carole Radziwill
Carole Radziwill was a talented, award-winning journalist when she met Anthony Radziwill, the cousin of JFK, Jr. When they worked together, they soon developed a loving relationship.
This is a story of her ten-year journey with her husband who struggled with incurable cancer. He died shortly after John, his wife and her sister died in a plane piloted by John who flew his plane under unfavorable weather conditions. She lost the love of her life, her best friend, and her husband's cousin and best friend, all in a short period of time.
While heart felt and well written, I struggled with all the stories of the lush life of NYC, the gowns, the parties, the many foreign vacations the four of them went together.
Worth the read, but it took awhile to sort through it all.
63LizzieD
Dear Linda, I've been lurking and leaving. I'm VERY HAPPY to see you back here and having read some good things! As with so many things, you are a champ at appreciating what you have, and that's the key to contentment - yes? I'm looking forward to the 7th for you in hopes that you recuperate quickly and find that you have real pain control at last!
64Carmenere
Good morning, Linda! Sorry to read you're in a slump, those things happen. Haha that's been my story too however I've found there is so much to be alert for in this world that it's not always the best thing, to keep your head in a book. (I know, that's blasphemy in these parts). Read less, appreciate more - I think that's my new motto.
I'm glad you have so much going on to appreciate too.
Sprinkling some pain be gone in your direction.
I'm glad you have so much going on to appreciate too.
Sprinkling some pain be gone in your direction.
65streamsong
I always enjoy the way that you explore topics, reading multiple books on the subject.
Congrats on 100 books read!
Is the 7th still the day for the pump surgery? Hopeful that it will bring the relief that you need so badly!
Congrats on 100 books read!
Is the 7th still the day for the pump surgery? Hopeful that it will bring the relief that you need so badly!
66johnsimpson
Hi Linda my dear, sorry to read that you have been in a bit of a slump, sadly these things happen. As you have said there are so many good things happening around you and you have the surgery coming up which i sincerely hope gives you the much needed pain relief that you had hoped for from previous surgeries.
We are both doing fine, Karen goes back to work tomorrow but tonight she is feeling a little bit anxious after seven weeks off work, the reason for her being off work is not yet resolved but she knows she has to go back to work. I am making sure that she is OK along with the rest of the family, once she has got her first shift back, under her belt she will be fine. The situation has taken its toll but we are all coping and i am making sure everyones spirits are being kept up.
Congratulations on reaching 100 books read for the year so far, and we send special Yorkshire love and hugs from both of us dear friend.
We are both doing fine, Karen goes back to work tomorrow but tonight she is feeling a little bit anxious after seven weeks off work, the reason for her being off work is not yet resolved but she knows she has to go back to work. I am making sure that she is OK along with the rest of the family, once she has got her first shift back, under her belt she will be fine. The situation has taken its toll but we are all coping and i am making sure everyones spirits are being kept up.
Congratulations on reaching 100 books read for the year so far, and we send special Yorkshire love and hugs from both of us dear friend.
68karenmarie
Hi Linda!
>61 Whisper1: Congrats on book #100.
I hope the surgery goes well. Waiting is always so stressful.
>61 Whisper1: Congrats on book #100.
I hope the surgery goes well. Waiting is always so stressful.
69m.belljackson
Linda - Good that Everything is lining up for help and support for the 7th.
Pump Up and Running!
A lot of Good Thoughts and Prayers will be surrounding You, Lilly, and your Family and Friends.
Pump Up and Running!
A lot of Good Thoughts and Prayers will be surrounding You, Lilly, and your Family and Friends.
70Whisper1
>62 PaulCranswick: Thanks for stopping by Paul. I hope all is well with you.
>63 LizzieD: Hello Peggy. I appreciate your kind wishes!
>64 Carmenere: HI Lynda. I think of you often, and hope your grief process is right where you want it to be. Much Love!
>65 streamsong: Janett, the 7th is the date I meet with the Director of Pain Management at the Lehigh Valley hospital. He will show me the pump and explain how it works. Primarily, he will decide which medications should be infused into the pump which will place the meds right into my spine. I am really looking forward to this.
Then, as soon as that meeting is finished, I can call the neurosurgeon I met a few weeks ago and we will set a date for the surgery.
I think I will stay at a rehabilitation center after the surgery. Grand daughter Kayla will be at the house taking care of the pets. She completed her first week of college, and she works part time, so, I think she needs to be free to focus on those things instead of taking care of me during my recovery.
>66 johnsimpson: Thanks for your good wishes John. And, I hope that Karen's first day back at work went well.
>67 quondame: Hi Susan. I'll know more about the surgery after I meet with the pain management doctor this coming Tuesday, the 7th. I imagine the surgery will occur during this month of September. And, I pray that surgery number ten will be the very last!
>68 karenmarie: Hi Karen. Thanks for stopping by. I deeply appreciate your kind wishes.
>69 m.belljackson: Hi Dear Marianne. Thank you, as always!!!
>63 LizzieD: Hello Peggy. I appreciate your kind wishes!
>64 Carmenere: HI Lynda. I think of you often, and hope your grief process is right where you want it to be. Much Love!
>65 streamsong: Janett, the 7th is the date I meet with the Director of Pain Management at the Lehigh Valley hospital. He will show me the pump and explain how it works. Primarily, he will decide which medications should be infused into the pump which will place the meds right into my spine. I am really looking forward to this.
Then, as soon as that meeting is finished, I can call the neurosurgeon I met a few weeks ago and we will set a date for the surgery.
I think I will stay at a rehabilitation center after the surgery. Grand daughter Kayla will be at the house taking care of the pets. She completed her first week of college, and she works part time, so, I think she needs to be free to focus on those things instead of taking care of me during my recovery.
>66 johnsimpson: Thanks for your good wishes John. And, I hope that Karen's first day back at work went well.
>67 quondame: Hi Susan. I'll know more about the surgery after I meet with the pain management doctor this coming Tuesday, the 7th. I imagine the surgery will occur during this month of September. And, I pray that surgery number ten will be the very last!
>68 karenmarie: Hi Karen. Thanks for stopping by. I deeply appreciate your kind wishes.
>69 m.belljackson: Hi Dear Marianne. Thank you, as always!!!
71Whisper1
BOOK #101
Good Neighbors by Ryan David Jahn
Many years ago, during freshman college psychology class, I learned the sad tale of Kitty Genovese, a young woman who worked late and when she returned home, a deranged, violent man was watching her to harm and kill her.
While many observed and/or heard the screams of the incident, no one called the police, thinking that they did not need to do so because most likely others had called 911. This true story was used in class as a reference of how easily it is for others not to take responsibility and help someone in need.
The author weaves fictional people and their lives that fateful evening. The tales of the other lives that evening were disturbingly nasty and violent. I read this book in one sitting, and while I thought it was very well written, reading it at night was frightening.
Good Neighbors by Ryan David Jahn
Many years ago, during freshman college psychology class, I learned the sad tale of Kitty Genovese, a young woman who worked late and when she returned home, a deranged, violent man was watching her to harm and kill her.
While many observed and/or heard the screams of the incident, no one called the police, thinking that they did not need to do so because most likely others had called 911. This true story was used in class as a reference of how easily it is for others not to take responsibility and help someone in need.
The author weaves fictional people and their lives that fateful evening. The tales of the other lives that evening were disturbingly nasty and violent. I read this book in one sitting, and while I thought it was very well written, reading it at night was frightening.
72LizzieD
Oh my goodness!!!! Kitty Genovese!!!!!!!! I clearly remember that horror. I learned more than I wanted to know about it in a TV special, done by ????? before 1967; I used it as a springboard for discussion in the church where I was working then. I'm sure it was frightening to read about alone at night.
I'll be thinking about you on the 7th. I think that it's great that Kayla can look after your pets and house while you have a best-place opportunity to recuperate.
I'll be thinking about you on the 7th. I think that it's great that Kayla can look after your pets and house while you have a best-place opportunity to recuperate.
73PaulCranswick
>71 Whisper1: Being a good and concerned neighbour or even bystander is rarer than we would like to think isn't it?
I remember a couple of years ago being approached by a man on the monorail platform who claimed that he had left his wallet somewhere and needed some help to go and rescue it. As usual I had a book in my hand as I was returning from lunch. I didn't have a great deal of change but I gave the man whatever it was I had on me and I recalled him asking me where I worked.
The following day when I went to the office someone had a left a book for me at reception - Mitch Albom's The First Five People You Meet in Heaven with a note of thanks for believing him.
I remember a couple of years ago being approached by a man on the monorail platform who claimed that he had left his wallet somewhere and needed some help to go and rescue it. As usual I had a book in my hand as I was returning from lunch. I didn't have a great deal of change but I gave the man whatever it was I had on me and I recalled him asking me where I worked.
The following day when I went to the office someone had a left a book for me at reception - Mitch Albom's The First Five People You Meet in Heaven with a note of thanks for believing him.
74karenmarie
Hi Linda!
>71 Whisper1: I was 11 when it happened, and don’t remember if that’s when I heard about it or if I heard about it when I was in high school or college. Regardless, it was an appalling crime and indictment of the neighborhood.
>71 Whisper1: I was 11 when it happened, and don’t remember if that’s when I heard about it or if I heard about it when I was in high school or college. Regardless, it was an appalling crime and indictment of the neighborhood.
76Whisper1
>72 LizzieD: Hi Peggy. I wonder if the movie you are referring to is am Oscar- winning movie titled Crash.
I am sorry that I wasn't clear about the 7th. That is the day that I meet with the director of the hospital pain management team. He will meet with me to decide which medication and the dosage that will go into the pump. He will explain the surgery and how the pump works.
Then, after that, I will connect with the neurosurgeon who recommended this surgery, and he will go over the details of the surgery and set a date for the procedure.
I won't have the surgery on the 7th, but most likely sometime this month.
Thanks, as always for your kindness.
>73 PaulCranswick:, What an amazing transaction that stayed with you all this time. Of course, I am not surprised that you helped a stranger. I am glad that you were thanked for your kindness.
I think what bothers me so much about the George Floyd incident is that those who are in positions to assist and help, are now kicking, and killing.
It is good to see a message from you my friend!
>74 karenmarie: Karen, The horror of it all was that he returned after he beat her, he wanted to come back to finish what he had started. According to the book, she somehow had stamina to crawl back to her apartment, but could not get up to put her keys in the lock.
I hope your weekend is going well, and that you can enjoy tomorrow (labor day.)
>75 BLBera: Hi Beth. I am prompted to study more about this incident. I'm not sure if the author was taking the actual incident and weaving it into a scenario that included others, or if what he wrote happened the way in which he portrayed it.
I am sorry that I wasn't clear about the 7th. That is the day that I meet with the director of the hospital pain management team. He will meet with me to decide which medication and the dosage that will go into the pump. He will explain the surgery and how the pump works.
Then, after that, I will connect with the neurosurgeon who recommended this surgery, and he will go over the details of the surgery and set a date for the procedure.
I won't have the surgery on the 7th, but most likely sometime this month.
Thanks, as always for your kindness.
>73 PaulCranswick:, What an amazing transaction that stayed with you all this time. Of course, I am not surprised that you helped a stranger. I am glad that you were thanked for your kindness.
I think what bothers me so much about the George Floyd incident is that those who are in positions to assist and help, are now kicking, and killing.
It is good to see a message from you my friend!
>74 karenmarie: Karen, The horror of it all was that he returned after he beat her, he wanted to come back to finish what he had started. According to the book, she somehow had stamina to crawl back to her apartment, but could not get up to put her keys in the lock.
I hope your weekend is going well, and that you can enjoy tomorrow (labor day.)
>75 BLBera: Hi Beth. I am prompted to study more about this incident. I'm not sure if the author was taking the actual incident and weaving it into a scenario that included others, or if what he wrote happened the way in which he portrayed it.
77Whisper1
Here is what I found regarding the tragic incident when I did a google search:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Kitty_Genovese
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Kitty_Genovese
78FAMeulstee
>71 Whisper1: Sadly the way this case ended up in textbooks, wasn't the truth. Rutger Bregman wrote about this, and other misinterpreted cases, in Humankind: A Hopeful History.
79streamsong
Ah, thanks for setting me straight with the dates. I hope your appointment on Tuesday is very helpful.
>71 Whisper1: Interesting story. I can see why it would be frightening to read alone in the dark.
Thanks for the link in >77 Whisper1:. Did reading it make you feel any differently about Good Neighbors?
>71 Whisper1: Interesting story. I can see why it would be frightening to read alone in the dark.
Thanks for the link in >77 Whisper1:. Did reading it make you feel any differently about Good Neighbors?
80LizzieD
Hi, Linda. Just checking in to see what you learned about your treatment. I'll try again tomorrow!!!!
81Berly
Hi, my friend. Just checking in to see how your visit went. I know the wait is hard and so are the reminders of Will being gone. And as usual you share your difficulties and then end on a high note sharing all the things you are grateful for. You are amazing. Hang in there. Hugs.
82Whisper1
>78 FAMeulstee: Thanks for this information Anita. I'll look for this book.
>79 streamsong: Hi Janet. The book Good Neighbors was fiction based loosely on the actual event. I feel about this the same way I feel about historical fiction books, especially those regarding Henry VII, specifically the Tudor TV series. Those who do not know the actual history, may think the book, or tv show is the reality, and this isn't true.
>80 LizzieD: Hi Peggy, Thanks for caring. The hour long meeting was very insightful. I wish I had the same process when I went through the nasty fusion of my spine from C1-T2 at Thomas Jefferson hospital in Philadelphia, PA. I felt so relieved that in meeting with the hospital pain management director that questions were answered, time was given to me and the process was clearly outlined.
First, I will meet with one of the hospital psychiatric team for an intake to be sure I know what I am going to go through, mainly that this device will be permanently installed in my body. I received a phone call the very next day from the psychiatric office to set an appointment for next Friday.
Then, I learned that I will be gradually weaned from the opiods and fentynal patches I've used for years. Every day, for five days, I will gradually have drugs installed via a catheter to be checked the next day for tweaking and additional medications installed. At the end of that five day period, I should have a firm grasp of drugs that will be installed into the fusion pump and that they will work to control my pain.
Then, the three hour surgery occurs. I may need to stay overnight, but I also may be able to come home.
After the surgery, I will have another five-day period of going to the pain management doctors each day, who will ensure the pump is working as it should, that it is firmly in place, and that my body is accepting the pump.
I believe the surgery will occur at the end of September, or beginning of October.
>81 Berly: Thanks Kim! As always, you are so very kind! I am always amazed that I found this group back in 2008, and have connected with many kind, caring and loving people -- such as you!!!!
>79 streamsong: Hi Janet. The book Good Neighbors was fiction based loosely on the actual event. I feel about this the same way I feel about historical fiction books, especially those regarding Henry VII, specifically the Tudor TV series. Those who do not know the actual history, may think the book, or tv show is the reality, and this isn't true.
>80 LizzieD: Hi Peggy, Thanks for caring. The hour long meeting was very insightful. I wish I had the same process when I went through the nasty fusion of my spine from C1-T2 at Thomas Jefferson hospital in Philadelphia, PA. I felt so relieved that in meeting with the hospital pain management director that questions were answered, time was given to me and the process was clearly outlined.
First, I will meet with one of the hospital psychiatric team for an intake to be sure I know what I am going to go through, mainly that this device will be permanently installed in my body. I received a phone call the very next day from the psychiatric office to set an appointment for next Friday.
Then, I learned that I will be gradually weaned from the opiods and fentynal patches I've used for years. Every day, for five days, I will gradually have drugs installed via a catheter to be checked the next day for tweaking and additional medications installed. At the end of that five day period, I should have a firm grasp of drugs that will be installed into the fusion pump and that they will work to control my pain.
Then, the three hour surgery occurs. I may need to stay overnight, but I also may be able to come home.
After the surgery, I will have another five-day period of going to the pain management doctors each day, who will ensure the pump is working as it should, that it is firmly in place, and that my body is accepting the pump.
I believe the surgery will occur at the end of September, or beginning of October.
>81 Berly: Thanks Kim! As always, you are so very kind! I am always amazed that I found this group back in 2008, and have connected with many kind, caring and loving people -- such as you!!!!
83Whisper1
BOOK #102
The Taming of the Queen by Philippa Gregory
This is a re-read, originally read in 2016. Because my thoughts are still the same, as when previously read. Thus, the review remains the same. Though, in re-reading the book, I had a grasp of the supreme psychotic life of Henry VIII.. Particularly in his later years. Based on the life of Katherine Parr, the sixth and final wife of Henry, who was intelligent enough to know how to save her life which was slated to end at the hands of this very sociopathic King of England. The author did an excellent job of framing the terror of this maniacal man who intentionally placed people against each other in his cabinet.
I confess that I am not enamored by books of Philippa Gregory. Mainly, my quarrel is that she takes an interesting story and embellishes or fabricates history. Yet, while I swore I would not read any more of her books, I had to read this one. There are so few books written about Henry VIII's final wife when compared to a plethora of books about Katherine of Aragon, Anne Boleyn, Jane Seymour, Anne of Cleves, and Catherine Howard. And, this is a shame because Katherine Parr is by far one of the more fascinating characters.
Twice widowed, the last time to a much older man, Katherine was a woman of poise, of confidence, of her own lands and wealth. Deeply in love with Thomas Seymour, brother of Jane, the only wife who bore him a child, Katherine was exceedingly hesitant when Henry picked her for his bride.
Of protestant faith and the new ways of religious thought, knowing the ever changing back and forth edicts of Henry regarding catholic and protestant faith, she was careful not to disclose her thoughts regarding her beliefs.
Older, more mature than some of the other wives, she was not besotted with the elderly Henry. She was chosen when Henry had lost his youth and was indeed a gargantuan, 54 inch waist, barely walking with a gross, stinking suppurating leg wound. Her predecessors were either divorced, beheaded, dead from complications of childbirth, deemed ugly and primitive or, like Catherine Howard, a young, careless, feckless doe who lost her head shortly after marriage.
When the king set eyes on her, she cringed. The author does an excellent job of portraying the never- nding fear at the King's court. A sociopathic, ever changing, game playing murderer, Katherine knew that when he tired of her, she would be killed. She watched Henry as he spun out of control, while the blood of friends, confidants, family or anyone he deemed unnecessary, ran freely.
When Henry tried to snare her in a trap, she outfoxed him. Unlike others, regarding Henry, she made decisions with her intellect and learned how to survive.
Alas, she outlived Henry and was able to marry the love of her life, but that's another story and another book waiting to be written.
The Taming of the Queen by Philippa Gregory
This is a re-read, originally read in 2016. Because my thoughts are still the same, as when previously read. Thus, the review remains the same. Though, in re-reading the book, I had a grasp of the supreme psychotic life of Henry VIII.. Particularly in his later years. Based on the life of Katherine Parr, the sixth and final wife of Henry, who was intelligent enough to know how to save her life which was slated to end at the hands of this very sociopathic King of England. The author did an excellent job of framing the terror of this maniacal man who intentionally placed people against each other in his cabinet.
I confess that I am not enamored by books of Philippa Gregory. Mainly, my quarrel is that she takes an interesting story and embellishes or fabricates history. Yet, while I swore I would not read any more of her books, I had to read this one. There are so few books written about Henry VIII's final wife when compared to a plethora of books about Katherine of Aragon, Anne Boleyn, Jane Seymour, Anne of Cleves, and Catherine Howard. And, this is a shame because Katherine Parr is by far one of the more fascinating characters.
Twice widowed, the last time to a much older man, Katherine was a woman of poise, of confidence, of her own lands and wealth. Deeply in love with Thomas Seymour, brother of Jane, the only wife who bore him a child, Katherine was exceedingly hesitant when Henry picked her for his bride.
Of protestant faith and the new ways of religious thought, knowing the ever changing back and forth edicts of Henry regarding catholic and protestant faith, she was careful not to disclose her thoughts regarding her beliefs.
Older, more mature than some of the other wives, she was not besotted with the elderly Henry. She was chosen when Henry had lost his youth and was indeed a gargantuan, 54 inch waist, barely walking with a gross, stinking suppurating leg wound. Her predecessors were either divorced, beheaded, dead from complications of childbirth, deemed ugly and primitive or, like Catherine Howard, a young, careless, feckless doe who lost her head shortly after marriage.
When the king set eyes on her, she cringed. The author does an excellent job of portraying the never- nding fear at the King's court. A sociopathic, ever changing, game playing murderer, Katherine knew that when he tired of her, she would be killed. She watched Henry as he spun out of control, while the blood of friends, confidants, family or anyone he deemed unnecessary, ran freely.
When Henry tried to snare her in a trap, she outfoxed him. Unlike others, regarding Henry, she made decisions with her intellect and learned how to survive.
Alas, she outlived Henry and was able to marry the love of her life, but that's another story and another book waiting to be written.
84karenmarie
Hi Linda.
>82 Whisper1: Thank you for the detailed explanation of the process of preparing for and installing the pain management pump. It sounds like a thorough and careful process in order to insure that it’s successful.
>82 Whisper1: Thank you for the detailed explanation of the process of preparing for and installing the pain management pump. It sounds like a thorough and careful process in order to insure that it’s successful.
85m.belljackson
Linda - that is an incredible set of changes you are facing!
Though complicated, it feels very complete and that you are in the right hands.
Though complicated, it feels very complete and that you are in the right hands.
86Oregonreader
Linda, I'm glad you are so informed about what you'll be going through beginning to end. I hope this is the answer to your prayers!
87quondame
>82 Whisper1: That sounds like a very intense but well thought out regimen. I hope it works smoothly and well for you.
88ronincats
I am so happy your consultation went so well and just pray for the procedure to go just as well!
89SirThomas
>82 Whisper1: That sounds very competent and hopeful, Linda.
I wish you all the best!
I wish you all the best!
90msf59
Hi, Linda. Just checking in. I hope you are doing better and getting plenty of reading in. BTW- Congrats on hitting a #100!
91magicians_nephew
>73 PaulCranswick: Lovely story Paul.
I'd rather be fooled and taken in a few times than leave a person unhelped when i had the needful at my fingertips.
I'd rather be fooled and taken in a few times than leave a person unhelped when i had the needful at my fingertips.
92magicians_nephew
>78 FAMeulstee: As a historian there are so many stories that "everyone knows" that just ain't so. The Kitty Genovese story is a classic example. It's a LOT more complicated than people think it was.
93jessibud2
Holding you in my thoughts, Linda, as you move forward in this next step of this journey. I hope it will be the last one, the one that will bring you relief from the pain you endure with such grace. You certainly deserve better and it sounds like this team of doctors has your back (no pun intended)
{{hugs}}
{{hugs}}
94BLBera
Linda: I hope the new regimen for pain control works for you. Good luck!
>83 Whisper1: Great comments on The Taming of the Queen; Parr sounds like a fascinating woman.
>83 Whisper1: Great comments on The Taming of the Queen; Parr sounds like a fascinating woman.
95LizzieD
Dear Linda, I do pray that this will be the equipment that makes a fuller, pain-free life open up for you! It sounds very much as though they are going to take care of you after the procedure - unlike that travesty of care that you got with the spinal fusion. I'm haunted by that horror story of their sending you home in that halo (?) thing. Is your device kin to the pump that diabetics may have? Some of my friends live very successfully with those.
Yeah - Gregory. I read her with great admiration when I was younger and more foolish. I think I could/should get rid of her offerings still in my library. In fact, I remember being slightly uneasy with some of her non-historical- figure fiction when I was still a sprout.
Yeah - Gregory. I read her with great admiration when I was younger and more foolish. I think I could/should get rid of her offerings still in my library. In fact, I remember being slightly uneasy with some of her non-historical- figure fiction when I was still a sprout.
97curioussquared
Hi Linda! Checking in. I hope this new treatment option is the solution you've been waiting for -- it sounds very promising!
98Caroline_McElwee
>82 Whisper1: Well that all sounds very hopeful Linda. Crossing fingers it all runs to plan and works as effectively as possible. You have had such a time of it, I can't imagine how stressful it has been.
100karenmarie
Happy Birthday, Linda!
105johnsimpson
Happy birthday Linda my dear friend, it is also Amy's birthday today.
107Caroline_McElwee
Adding birthday wishes Linda. I hope you have nice plans, and cake.
110PaulCranswick
Happy birthday, dear Linda
111thornton37814
Belated birthday wishes!
112m.belljackson
Linda - Looking forward to hearing all about the Birthday Fun that you and Lilly had!
115laytonwoman3rd
Sorry to have missed your birthday, Linda. I hope you did something lovely.
116SirThomas
>37 Whisper1: Again, thank you for this recommendation - I really enjoyed reading it.
I hope you are doing well, Linda!
I hope you are doing well, Linda!
117magicians_nephew
Here's to birthday beginnings and new things to do and try and feel!
118Whisper1
Thanks to all for your kind words.
I've been experiencing more than usual pain lately, and apologize for being out of touch.
I passed phase one of the three-part process which will enable the surgery to implant the infusion pump.
Last Friday, I saw one of the hospital psychiatrists. While not considered a session, the questions were very invasive:
Have you ever cut yourself?
Have you ever tried to commit suicide?
Is there a history of schozphrenia in your family?
Have you ever been under the care of a psychiatrist for a long time?
Have you had a loss in the last few years, and if so, how do you think you are handling the situation?
Have you ever been an alcoholic?
Do you suffer from depression?
Do you have any hobbies? If so, what are they?
Do you have friends?'
Do you consider yourself well liked?
Do you think people are out to get you?
What level of education do you have?
Are you happy with your life?
Do you think you manage your finances well?
Do you own your own home?
Do you suffer from an eating disorder?
Have you ever suffered from an eating disorder?
How many marriages have you had?
How any divorces?
Do you have children?
Do you consider you have a close relationship with your family?
Do you consider yourself a happy person?
Do you think people are drawn to you?
How has severe pain impacted on your life?
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Three words were mentioned. I was asked to repeat them at varying times during the session.
Apple, table, and penny.
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Whew!!!! I passed! What an unexpected intensive experience.
I mentioned that I was very happy that there was a process that will occur and that I am glad that everything is carefully explained.
I received a call today from the hospital. On October 12th, I will meet with the director of the hospital pain management center. At that time, he will begin the process of cutting back my current pain meds by 50% and I will have a preliminary surgery to install a simulated pump with various medications fed into my spine. As mentioned previously, I will meet at the hospital for at least one hour for five days as the pain meds will gradually become stronger in the hope that at the end of this time, the doctor will know which medications will be infused in the pump during the three - four hour surgery.
I will receive a list of people in the area who have the pump installed in their body, and I can ask them questions regarding the procedure and their outcome.
The neurosurgeon I met previously, will perform the surgery locally. Unless there are complications (not anticipated,) I may stay overnight and released to be home with someone who will care for me until I feel comfortable.
After the surgery, I will go back to the pain management doctor for five days for one hour sessions to ensure the pump is working, xrays will show if the pump is remaining where it needs to be, and again, tests to ascertain if the correct medications are working.
It seems complicated, but again, I am very glad there is a carefully monitored process.
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I look forward to getting my life back with time to be more active here in the group, and to live without uncontrollable pain!
Thanks to everyone for your continued support.
I've been experiencing more than usual pain lately, and apologize for being out of touch.
I passed phase one of the three-part process which will enable the surgery to implant the infusion pump.
Last Friday, I saw one of the hospital psychiatrists. While not considered a session, the questions were very invasive:
Have you ever cut yourself?
Have you ever tried to commit suicide?
Is there a history of schozphrenia in your family?
Have you ever been under the care of a psychiatrist for a long time?
Have you had a loss in the last few years, and if so, how do you think you are handling the situation?
Have you ever been an alcoholic?
Do you suffer from depression?
Do you have any hobbies? If so, what are they?
Do you have friends?'
Do you consider yourself well liked?
Do you think people are out to get you?
What level of education do you have?
Are you happy with your life?
Do you think you manage your finances well?
Do you own your own home?
Do you suffer from an eating disorder?
Have you ever suffered from an eating disorder?
How many marriages have you had?
How any divorces?
Do you have children?
Do you consider you have a close relationship with your family?
Do you consider yourself a happy person?
Do you think people are drawn to you?
How has severe pain impacted on your life?
----------------------------------------------
Three words were mentioned. I was asked to repeat them at varying times during the session.
Apple, table, and penny.
------------------------------------------------
Whew!!!! I passed! What an unexpected intensive experience.
I mentioned that I was very happy that there was a process that will occur and that I am glad that everything is carefully explained.
I received a call today from the hospital. On October 12th, I will meet with the director of the hospital pain management center. At that time, he will begin the process of cutting back my current pain meds by 50% and I will have a preliminary surgery to install a simulated pump with various medications fed into my spine. As mentioned previously, I will meet at the hospital for at least one hour for five days as the pain meds will gradually become stronger in the hope that at the end of this time, the doctor will know which medications will be infused in the pump during the three - four hour surgery.
I will receive a list of people in the area who have the pump installed in their body, and I can ask them questions regarding the procedure and their outcome.
The neurosurgeon I met previously, will perform the surgery locally. Unless there are complications (not anticipated,) I may stay overnight and released to be home with someone who will care for me until I feel comfortable.
After the surgery, I will go back to the pain management doctor for five days for one hour sessions to ensure the pump is working, xrays will show if the pump is remaining where it needs to be, and again, tests to ascertain if the correct medications are working.
It seems complicated, but again, I am very glad there is a carefully monitored process.
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I look forward to getting my life back with time to be more active here in the group, and to live without uncontrollable pain!
Thanks to everyone for your continued support.
119quondame
All those questions are intrusive, but understandable for a pain related procedure. I was a bit startled when the OB/GYN assistant asked about domestic violence. I'm glad that it's now a routine question, at least for women, but it just seemed so out of the blue, weight, blood pressure, any domestic violence? that I had to ask her to repeat the question.
I hope you have some slacking in the pain even before the procedure and much after.
I hope you have some slacking in the pain even before the procedure and much after.
120Caroline_McElwee
>118 Whisper1: That was certainly intrusive Linda, but for a good cause. I was impressed they can organise for you to talk to people who are already using the system, that will both be useful and reassuring.
Here's to a far more pain-free future.
Here's to a far more pain-free future.
121fuzzi
>118 Whisper1: wow, what a process...but if you can get better pain management I imagine it will be worth it.
122Whisper1
>119 quondame: Hi Susan. I am glad there is a system that tries to ensure I am emotionally ready for this procedure. Unlike Thomas Jefferson hospital in Philadelphia, PA wherein, no process was in place, simply a cursory meeting with the surgeon who told me he would need "to break my neck" during the surgery! He seemed proud that he could do this!
After the ten hour surgery, I was placed in a room by myself with very little pain medication. It was a terrible experience.
I hope you are well. Fall is approaching as each morning there is a chill in the air. It is my favorite time of the year!
>120 Caroline_McElwee: Hi Caroline. Thanks for your kind words. I am more than ready to undergo this surgery. Phase two begins October 12th when the pain specialist will cut my current pain meds in half and slowly replace them with medication placed in a temporary infusion pump. Grand daughter Kayla will stay at the house to help me.
After the ten hour surgery, I was placed in a room by myself with very little pain medication. It was a terrible experience.
I hope you are well. Fall is approaching as each morning there is a chill in the air. It is my favorite time of the year!
>120 Caroline_McElwee: Hi Caroline. Thanks for your kind words. I am more than ready to undergo this surgery. Phase two begins October 12th when the pain specialist will cut my current pain meds in half and slowly replace them with medication placed in a temporary infusion pump. Grand daughter Kayla will stay at the house to help me.
123karenmarie
Hi Linda!
>118 Whisper1: Whew!!!! Indeed. That 3-words exercise is used on the Medicare evaluation. Glad you remembered them.
This really sounds like it might be the solution you want and need. Prayers and thoughts continue for you.
>118 Whisper1: Whew!!!! Indeed. That 3-words exercise is used on the Medicare evaluation. Glad you remembered them.
This really sounds like it might be the solution you want and need. Prayers and thoughts continue for you.
124Whisper1
BOOK #103
Ginny Moon by Benjamin Ludwig
This is an incredible book. Ginny(named after her mother's favorite drink of Gin and tonic, is 14 and autistic. Tragically emotionally and physically abused by a self absorbed, sociopathic mother who was in no way able to handle the challenges of a very stubborn autistic child.
Left alone for long periods of time with no food or resources, Ginny was rescued. Placed in various foster homes, she continually ran away.
Finally, she has stability with her "forever parents." But, she continues to flee. Finding a computer at school, she learns how to connect with her biological mother. She has a secret. She continually obsesses about a baby doll that she placed in a suit case and needs to rescue. The social worker notes that despite Ginny's insistence, the records do not show another birth.
The author and his wife adopted a teen aged autistic child, and much of what is written was based on conversations with other parents in situations very much like Ginny's.
Very well written, engaging, and true to life, I highly recommend this book!
Four stars.
Ginny Moon by Benjamin Ludwig
This is an incredible book. Ginny(named after her mother's favorite drink of Gin and tonic, is 14 and autistic. Tragically emotionally and physically abused by a self absorbed, sociopathic mother who was in no way able to handle the challenges of a very stubborn autistic child.
Left alone for long periods of time with no food or resources, Ginny was rescued. Placed in various foster homes, she continually ran away.
Finally, she has stability with her "forever parents." But, she continues to flee. Finding a computer at school, she learns how to connect with her biological mother. She has a secret. She continually obsesses about a baby doll that she placed in a suit case and needs to rescue. The social worker notes that despite Ginny's insistence, the records do not show another birth.
The author and his wife adopted a teen aged autistic child, and much of what is written was based on conversations with other parents in situations very much like Ginny's.
Very well written, engaging, and true to life, I highly recommend this book!
Four stars.
125jessibud2
Hi Linda,
What an ordeal! But I am glad things are progressing toward that ultimate goal. And very happy to hear that your granddaughter will stay with you. I am so sorry that you have been continuing to experience pain now but keep your eyes on the prize, as the saying goes. October 12 is not that far off!
What an ordeal! But I am glad things are progressing toward that ultimate goal. And very happy to hear that your granddaughter will stay with you. I am so sorry that you have been continuing to experience pain now but keep your eyes on the prize, as the saying goes. October 12 is not that far off!
126Whisper1
Thanks Shelley! I appreciate your frequent visits to my thread. I look forward to being able to becoming more active in our group.
127Whisper1
Book #104
Secrets of Eden by Chris Bohjalian
Small town Vermont is rocked by the tragic murder of a wife at the hands of her abusive husband, and his suicide after murdering her.
There is a history of abuse. The minister of the local church is very aware of the circumstances. Yet, the author does not choose to have this character report or intervene.
Slow to read, at times I wanted to skip ahead. The minister flees his congregation, and finds a relationship with a woman who writes books about angels. This seems to be thrown into the story without a common thread.
Disappointing because I've read other books written by the author. This was a dud.
Secrets of Eden by Chris Bohjalian
Small town Vermont is rocked by the tragic murder of a wife at the hands of her abusive husband, and his suicide after murdering her.
There is a history of abuse. The minister of the local church is very aware of the circumstances. Yet, the author does not choose to have this character report or intervene.
Slow to read, at times I wanted to skip ahead. The minister flees his congregation, and finds a relationship with a woman who writes books about angels. This seems to be thrown into the story without a common thread.
Disappointing because I've read other books written by the author. This was a dud.
128jnwelch
Hi, Linda. Sorry your latest read was a dud. Did you like Pax? The new one, Pax, Journey Home, is even better, IMO.
My mind is boggled with what you're going through for the pain pump. You're a strong, brave lady. Sending lots of positive thoughts for the surgery to go well and the pump to give you relief.
My mind is boggled with what you're going through for the pain pump. You're a strong, brave lady. Sending lots of positive thoughts for the surgery to go well and the pump to give you relief.
129laytonwoman3rd
I'm glad the preparations have begun for the pain pump, Linda. More care needs to be taken, in general, I think, to attend to the emotional aspects of all sorts of medical procedures and treatments. I'm afraid some of the best surgeons have absolutely no true empathy, and maybe they have to distance themselves from the people they operate on...but they should certainly be part of a team of other professionals who know better ways of talking to frightened patients in pain about what's going to happen to them.
130jayde1599
>124 Whisper1: I have put Ginny Moon on the wishlist. Thank you for the review.
I am glad you have a plan for your pain!
I am glad you have a plan for your pain!
131Whisper1
>128 jnwelch: Pax, Journey Home is now on the TBR list! Thanks for the recommendation Joe.
I hope you are well.
>129 laytonwoman3rd: Hi Linda. I am very impressed by the system in place in order to have the fusion pump surgery. Phase two is October 12th. I will gradually cut back on current pain meds and they will be replaced with various medications to see which ones will be placed in the pump. I'll go to the hospital and the director of the pain management center will give new meds each day. I will be there for one hour for five days. Each day, different meds will be tried.
I imagine fall is coming to your area. Today is beautiful here! The flowers are giving their last beauty of the summer.
>130 jayde1599: Hi Shelley, please check your personal messages.
I hope you are well.
>129 laytonwoman3rd: Hi Linda. I am very impressed by the system in place in order to have the fusion pump surgery. Phase two is October 12th. I will gradually cut back on current pain meds and they will be replaced with various medications to see which ones will be placed in the pump. I'll go to the hospital and the director of the pain management center will give new meds each day. I will be there for one hour for five days. Each day, different meds will be tried.
I imagine fall is coming to your area. Today is beautiful here! The flowers are giving their last beauty of the summer.
>130 jayde1599: Hi Shelley, please check your personal messages.
132Whisper1
BOOKK #105
1968: The Year That Rocked The World by Mark Kurlansky
Exceedingly researched, this book reads more like a text book that a paperback.
1968 brought the Tet Offensive and the shipping of more and more American boys to die in a jungle, far away for a senseless endeavor.
By 1968, people were tired of the blatant lies told by the United States government. Lindon Johnson's war was costly, not only in terms of the loss of life, but financially as well. By the time the front page of newspapers should an image of a small boy running while skin is coming off from the burning, even those who supported the war were realizing just how terrible it really was!
The phrase of 1968 was "sex, drugs, and rock and roll." It was the year of death of Martin Luther King, and Bobby Kennedy, both assassinated. MLK, turned the focus from non violent protest regarding the treatment of African Americans, to speaking at the pulpit protesting the war that disproportionately drafted and killed black young men.
There were riots at the Democratic National Convention held in Chicago. Black Power became a buz word as Stokley Carmichael and Malcolm X lifted fists in the air to protest not only the war, but the treatment of the black population in the United States.
TV became popular as increasingly people bought a small black and white box that focused on the face and personality of Walter Cronkite as the honest person to trust.
Packed through with facts, it took a while to read this missive that showed just how dysfunctional America was as it increasingly spun out of control.
1968: The Year That Rocked The World by Mark Kurlansky
Exceedingly researched, this book reads more like a text book that a paperback.
1968 brought the Tet Offensive and the shipping of more and more American boys to die in a jungle, far away for a senseless endeavor.
By 1968, people were tired of the blatant lies told by the United States government. Lindon Johnson's war was costly, not only in terms of the loss of life, but financially as well. By the time the front page of newspapers should an image of a small boy running while skin is coming off from the burning, even those who supported the war were realizing just how terrible it really was!
The phrase of 1968 was "sex, drugs, and rock and roll." It was the year of death of Martin Luther King, and Bobby Kennedy, both assassinated. MLK, turned the focus from non violent protest regarding the treatment of African Americans, to speaking at the pulpit protesting the war that disproportionately drafted and killed black young men.
There were riots at the Democratic National Convention held in Chicago. Black Power became a buz word as Stokley Carmichael and Malcolm X lifted fists in the air to protest not only the war, but the treatment of the black population in the United States.
TV became popular as increasingly people bought a small black and white box that focused on the face and personality of Walter Cronkite as the honest person to trust.
Packed through with facts, it took a while to read this missive that showed just how dysfunctional America was as it increasingly spun out of control.
133quondame
>132 Whisper1: I was in Berkeley, a freshman & sophomore there in 1968, and while times were interesting, I'd argue that they are more dysfunctional and out of control now. It was the eve of the big Republican take over which has been gnawing at our middle class ever since when they finally realized that not drafting white boys gave them free rein to own a large segment the electorate via racial scare tactics.
134LizzieD
Dear Linda, all those invasive questions reassure me that these people have your best interests at heart. I'm thrilled that you are on your way to less pain and more reclaiming of your life - not that you ever surrendered, you valiant woman, you!
1968 --- wow! I was two years out of college and becoming something of a lefty radical, as much as one could be a lefty radical in Charlotte, NC. I had been doing AFDC casework and was fired for my conllaboration with a welfare rights organizer. In another couple of years, he was doing in-service training for the welfare department, and I was teaching English in my hometown and planning our wedding!
1968 --- wow! I was two years out of college and becoming something of a lefty radical, as much as one could be a lefty radical in Charlotte, NC. I had been doing AFDC casework and was fired for my conllaboration with a welfare rights organizer. In another couple of years, he was doing in-service training for the welfare department, and I was teaching English in my hometown and planning our wedding!
135Whisper1
>134 LizzieD: Peggy, you were fired for helping with welfare rights??
That is terrible.
I am glad your mother is doing well. I'm sorry about your back problems. Are you receiving medical care, such as injections to help with the pain?
Much Love
Linda
That is terrible.
I am glad your mother is doing well. I'm sorry about your back problems. Are you receiving medical care, such as injections to help with the pain?
Much Love
Linda
136Whisper1
>133 quondame: I agree. Things do seem more out of control as there are so many random shootings that kill people.
I can only imagine how it was to be a student at Berkley during those traumatic times.
I can only imagine how it was to be a student at Berkley during those traumatic times.
137m.belljackson
>136 Whisper1: It was pretty scary-exciting to live in Chicago when Mayor Daley and his gang of terrorist police
took over The Democratic Convention! Liberal or Conservative, you got a chance to get knocked in the head.
While I stayed at home staring at the television screen for the first days and nights,
my first husband immediately took off to join the fracas.
Getting over my early fears, I drove downtown and joined Dick Gregory who was leading
a March to His House miles away on the Southside where we lived.
We were halted by a TANK!
took over The Democratic Convention! Liberal or Conservative, you got a chance to get knocked in the head.
While I stayed at home staring at the television screen for the first days and nights,
my first husband immediately took off to join the fracas.
Getting over my early fears, I drove downtown and joined Dick Gregory who was leading
a March to His House miles away on the Southside where we lived.
We were halted by a TANK!
138quondame
>136 Whisper1: I think I posted pictures from the occupation of Berkeley, yep there they are in my junk photos.
The official story:
and a corner of what went on in the background
Some classes were thrown in the air, pick your own grade, and some were all about ignoring what's going on outside the window and focus here.
I was devastated when the library was firebombed, not so much because of lost books, but because the beautiful wood ceiling of the lecture auditorium which beguiled me through the psychology lecture the day before.
The official story:
and a corner of what went on in the background
Some classes were thrown in the air, pick your own grade, and some were all about ignoring what's going on outside the window and focus here.
I was devastated when the library was firebombed, not so much because of lost books, but because the beautiful wood ceiling of the lecture auditorium which beguiled me through the psychology lecture the day before.
139PaulCranswick
All the 1968 talk is very interesting and I am proud of some of my lady friends who appear to have been in the thick of it!
I was two years old at the time but certainly a rebel nonetheless! I was busy implementing domestic redistribution policies which at that time were effected by stealing food from my twin brother's plate!
Hope all is well dear Linda.
I was two years old at the time but certainly a rebel nonetheless! I was busy implementing domestic redistribution policies which at that time were effected by stealing food from my twin brother's plate!
Hope all is well dear Linda.
140LizzieD
Yep, 1968 was the year. The Poor People's March came through Charlotte where I was, and I donated a quilt that my grandmama had made to somebody without any cover (and have been sorry ever since..... I had time to buy a new blanket and don't know why I didn't do that instead). Yes, Charles Kuralt's father, who had been a radical for welfare rights in his time, first insulted me and then fired me.
Susan in Berkley and Marianne in Chicago - wow! I'm in good company.
Susan in Berkley and Marianne in Chicago - wow! I'm in good company.
141Whisper1
>139 PaulCranswick: I graduated from high school in 1970. I lived in a small town called Pen Argyl, PA. The area was called the slate belt because there were many slate quarries which provided jobs for the locals. Nearby is a town called Bangor. If you are from that area, it is pronounced as Banger.
Both towns were named for area in Wales. My relatives way back came from Wales, and both small towns have towns with names of the same. Working in coal mines in Wales, was a smooth transition to slate quarries in Pennsylvania.
In addition, the area produced jobs for women who worked in the blouse factories. Once a thriving industry, when foreign countries produced much cheaper apparel, sadly, the blouse factories folded.
My grandfather died from a heart attack, back when there were no such things as open heart operations. Left with two young children to raise on her own, my grandmother found a job in the blouse factory.
There was no CNN or Fox news. The TV channels in 1968 were limited to three.
National news trickled slowly into our little town. I had excellent history teachers who taught the history of Israel and Palestine, and many other things that did not happen in our small area. When the 1967 war along the gaza strip occurred, we heard about it through my teacher.
There only was one African American family in our town. They were treated equally and embraced.
My first trip to New York City in 1968 was with my English teacher and his wife. I was overwhelmed. I never saw an afro hairdo before. It was quite an experience.
Sadly, while the country was talking freedom, peace and love. The little town of Pen Argyl was talking about the Saturday high school foot ball game, and how one student who was the star football player had a scholarship to Penn State, located in central Pennsylvania. This was the BIG news in our small town.
Later, in college, when I was exposed to the history of the sixties, I realized how much I missed.
Both towns were named for area in Wales. My relatives way back came from Wales, and both small towns have towns with names of the same. Working in coal mines in Wales, was a smooth transition to slate quarries in Pennsylvania.
In addition, the area produced jobs for women who worked in the blouse factories. Once a thriving industry, when foreign countries produced much cheaper apparel, sadly, the blouse factories folded.
My grandfather died from a heart attack, back when there were no such things as open heart operations. Left with two young children to raise on her own, my grandmother found a job in the blouse factory.
There was no CNN or Fox news. The TV channels in 1968 were limited to three.
National news trickled slowly into our little town. I had excellent history teachers who taught the history of Israel and Palestine, and many other things that did not happen in our small area. When the 1967 war along the gaza strip occurred, we heard about it through my teacher.
There only was one African American family in our town. They were treated equally and embraced.
My first trip to New York City in 1968 was with my English teacher and his wife. I was overwhelmed. I never saw an afro hairdo before. It was quite an experience.
Sadly, while the country was talking freedom, peace and love. The little town of Pen Argyl was talking about the Saturday high school foot ball game, and how one student who was the star football player had a scholarship to Penn State, located in central Pennsylvania. This was the BIG news in our small town.
Later, in college, when I was exposed to the history of the sixties, I realized how much I missed.
142SandDune
>141 Whisper1: There were slate mines in Wales too (still are actually).
144Whisper1
BOOK #106
Simply Halston by Steven Grimes
I'm not sure how to begin when explaining this book. I watched the Netflix episode, and then bought the book from Amazon.
Roy Halson Frowick was born in the Midwest, Des Moines, Iowa. His father was abusive in his temper was uncontrollable. Unable to keep a job, his family moved frequently, increasingly to down and out dumps.
To help his mother's sadness, at an early age, he made hats for her. When an adult, he moved to Manhattan, where he was known as a hat designer. When Jackie Kennedy wore a dress by Cassini, and a hat by Halston, it was a terrific outfit and brought attention to Halston.
Difficult to make the transition from hat making when the industry closed as a result of changing ways in which women wanted to be dressed. Halston's hats were out, but soon, his incredible designs of women's clothing were the rage. His clothes were simplistically beautiful. in the 1070's, he became the king of women's couturier., and gained international fame as well. his minimalist, clean designs were made of ultrasuede and or cashmere. At the top of his success, his jumpers, evening gowns and reader to wear clothing dresses the rich and famous. In 1984 he was a four-time Coty fashion award recipient.
He clothed the famous such as Elizabeth Taylor, Liza Minelli, Babe Paley, Bianca Jagger, to name a few. He was selling clothes and an image.
Bergdorf Goodman carried both his perfume and his dresses. At the height of his fame in the 1970's, all too soon the gay Halston became very much a part of Studio 54, where cocaine and various drugs were frequent. Not only dancing, but sex was exhibited in a sensational manner.
His personal life became out of control. Taking limos for just one block, it was not unusual for the accounting books to reflect thousands of dollars per month for this habit. This was not the only habit that Halston had. His cocaine habit was out of control.
In the mid 80's his ego was like the prince with no clothes. He was not uncontrollable. When his cocaine habit interfered with his ability to produce on time, his company was bought by those much larger than he. An accountant who had a reputation of turning companies around and cutting expenses to the minimum, Halston's ego would not allow anyone to tell him what to do.
Friend of the iconic fashion designer, Charles James, and the well-known artist Andy Warhol, he loved the lavish life style.
He was promiscuous in the time when AID first was discovered to cause death, and the knowledge it was transmitted thought unprotected sex, Halston paid no mind to caution.
He openly ordered men from telephone services. Never spending the night, he only wanted sex.
Sex, drinking, smoking and and ego that was sky high, alll too soon caused the company to crash. The 80's were the time of business take overs, and Halston's poorly run company all too soon was bought out by much larger companies who knew how to control their assets. He sold not only the company, but his name as well.
When he contracted aids n 1988, Halston's life was soon to be over. His long-term, incredibly decadent boy friend Victor Hugo a sex worker from Venezuela, by his own admission, had sexual contact with "thousands."
His relationship with a very out of touch, sadistic man, was his undoing. When the cash dried up and Hugo could no longer get the money he needed for his habits, he decided that he could blackmail Halston with sex tapes he recorded.
Halston's life was ending, and he moved to California where his brother and sister took care of him and forbid Hugo to be a part of his life, and then death.
Andy Warhol, was also part of the part of sex, love and drugs scene. Also a play mate of Victor Hugo, when Warhol died, his diaries were found, in them were salacious descriptions of the wild life of Halston. At the time of publication, Halston was struggling
to stay alive. The Warhol publications were the end of Halston.
He died in March of 1990, a short two years after the discovery that he carried AIDS.
He died of Kaposi's carcinoma, an AIDS-defining illness, at the Pacific Presbyterian Medical Center in San Francisco.
His star shone brightly, and faded as result of changing styles in the fashion industry, and his out of control addictions to drugs and sex.
Simply Halston by Steven Grimes
I'm not sure how to begin when explaining this book. I watched the Netflix episode, and then bought the book from Amazon.
Roy Halson Frowick was born in the Midwest, Des Moines, Iowa. His father was abusive in his temper was uncontrollable. Unable to keep a job, his family moved frequently, increasingly to down and out dumps.
To help his mother's sadness, at an early age, he made hats for her. When an adult, he moved to Manhattan, where he was known as a hat designer. When Jackie Kennedy wore a dress by Cassini, and a hat by Halston, it was a terrific outfit and brought attention to Halston.
Difficult to make the transition from hat making when the industry closed as a result of changing ways in which women wanted to be dressed. Halston's hats were out, but soon, his incredible designs of women's clothing were the rage. His clothes were simplistically beautiful. in the 1070's, he became the king of women's couturier., and gained international fame as well. his minimalist, clean designs were made of ultrasuede and or cashmere. At the top of his success, his jumpers, evening gowns and reader to wear clothing dresses the rich and famous. In 1984 he was a four-time Coty fashion award recipient.
He clothed the famous such as Elizabeth Taylor, Liza Minelli, Babe Paley, Bianca Jagger, to name a few. He was selling clothes and an image.
Bergdorf Goodman carried both his perfume and his dresses. At the height of his fame in the 1970's, all too soon the gay Halston became very much a part of Studio 54, where cocaine and various drugs were frequent. Not only dancing, but sex was exhibited in a sensational manner.
His personal life became out of control. Taking limos for just one block, it was not unusual for the accounting books to reflect thousands of dollars per month for this habit. This was not the only habit that Halston had. His cocaine habit was out of control.
In the mid 80's his ego was like the prince with no clothes. He was not uncontrollable. When his cocaine habit interfered with his ability to produce on time, his company was bought by those much larger than he. An accountant who had a reputation of turning companies around and cutting expenses to the minimum, Halston's ego would not allow anyone to tell him what to do.
Friend of the iconic fashion designer, Charles James, and the well-known artist Andy Warhol, he loved the lavish life style.
He was promiscuous in the time when AID first was discovered to cause death, and the knowledge it was transmitted thought unprotected sex, Halston paid no mind to caution.
He openly ordered men from telephone services. Never spending the night, he only wanted sex.
Sex, drinking, smoking and and ego that was sky high, alll too soon caused the company to crash. The 80's were the time of business take overs, and Halston's poorly run company all too soon was bought out by much larger companies who knew how to control their assets. He sold not only the company, but his name as well.
When he contracted aids n 1988, Halston's life was soon to be over. His long-term, incredibly decadent boy friend Victor Hugo a sex worker from Venezuela, by his own admission, had sexual contact with "thousands."
His relationship with a very out of touch, sadistic man, was his undoing. When the cash dried up and Hugo could no longer get the money he needed for his habits, he decided that he could blackmail Halston with sex tapes he recorded.
Halston's life was ending, and he moved to California where his brother and sister took care of him and forbid Hugo to be a part of his life, and then death.
Andy Warhol, was also part of the part of sex, love and drugs scene. Also a play mate of Victor Hugo, when Warhol died, his diaries were found, in them were salacious descriptions of the wild life of Halston. At the time of publication, Halston was struggling
to stay alive. The Warhol publications were the end of Halston.
He died in March of 1990, a short two years after the discovery that he carried AIDS.
He died of Kaposi's carcinoma, an AIDS-defining illness, at the Pacific Presbyterian Medical Center in San Francisco.
His star shone brightly, and faded as result of changing styles in the fashion industry, and his out of control addictions to drugs and sex.
145alcottacre
>144 Whisper1: Nice review, Linda, although I do not have enough interest in the subject matter to read the book.
147alcottacre
>146 Whisper1: Nice to be seen, lovey! Call me this week, will you??
148BLBera
Great comments on the Halston book, Linda. What a tragedy. Now I don't have to read it. :)
149magicians_nephew
There is a line in a Steven Sondheim show where someone says "Does anybody still wear . . . a hat?"
I think of Jackie Kennedy as one of the women who changed the fashion and made wearing a hat a rarity instead of a commonplace. When i was young my mother was more likely to go out of the house naked than to go without a hat on. How times change.
And Jack Kennedy of course went out hatless and was always credited for ending the fashion of men wearing broad brimmed hats everywhere. Whatever happened to all the hat check girls at all the restaurants and clubs? Gone to flowers everyone.
Hearing about the Halson book reminds me of the early days of the AIDS epidemic when some gay men were careful and some gay men were self destructive and died.
And saying hello and wishing you well, dear Linda.
One of these days we are going to drive out and see you in person, Judy and I.
I think of Jackie Kennedy as one of the women who changed the fashion and made wearing a hat a rarity instead of a commonplace. When i was young my mother was more likely to go out of the house naked than to go without a hat on. How times change.
And Jack Kennedy of course went out hatless and was always credited for ending the fashion of men wearing broad brimmed hats everywhere. Whatever happened to all the hat check girls at all the restaurants and clubs? Gone to flowers everyone.
Hearing about the Halson book reminds me of the early days of the AIDS epidemic when some gay men were careful and some gay men were self destructive and died.
And saying hello and wishing you well, dear Linda.
One of these days we are going to drive out and see you in person, Judy and I.
150fuzzi
>149 magicians_nephew: I love seeing hats, not ball caps, on men. I practically swoon over 1940s film noirs.
153m.belljackson
Again sending Hope that this day lives up to its promise!
154alcottacre
I am so glad to hear that Kayla will be staying with you during the start of phase two today. I hope all goes well, lovey!
157Whisper1
Hello to all. Yesterday was not the original infusion. Unfortunately, because of Covid, there are many demands for authorizations. The Director of the pain management center met with me, and it was important that I saw him. I went away with a better understanding.
The first drug tried will be morphine. That gives me a wicked headache. Medication to help the head ache will be part of meds infused in the pump. In addition, I will continue using the fentanyl patch and the fioricet medication currently used.
If the authorization is not in place within a week, the doctor will directly contact the insurance company for authorization.
I am glad I had the extra time with the doctor. In addition to seeing the pump again, I saw the thin plastic tubing with delivers the pain meds to the spine.
The procedure will be at the hospital, and should start next week.
I deeply appreciate the support of so many of you!
The first drug tried will be morphine. That gives me a wicked headache. Medication to help the head ache will be part of meds infused in the pump. In addition, I will continue using the fentanyl patch and the fioricet medication currently used.
If the authorization is not in place within a week, the doctor will directly contact the insurance company for authorization.
I am glad I had the extra time with the doctor. In addition to seeing the pump again, I saw the thin plastic tubing with delivers the pain meds to the spine.
The procedure will be at the hospital, and should start next week.
I deeply appreciate the support of so many of you!
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