Our innermost world, our deepest selves, those carefully protected places that are revealed only in the safest of conditions, are where we store our fears, our formative experiences, our most significant questions. No one, churchgoer or secularist, opens that innermost world too readily. We have either witnessed or experienced the pain or opening up to someone who isn't safe: judgment, ridicule, secrets cheaply passed along for entertainment value. For many, many people today, you must 'pass the trust test' n talking abourt sex before you ever have a chance to talk about God.