Man, I don't know. You take a quiz of 8 questions and then you're put into 1 of 4 buckets. My bigger issue then the 8 questions is I didn't even agree with some of the answers and just had to pick the closest one.
I don't disagree with the assessment of who I am but, yeah, this is just hard to get on board with. ( )

I don't think this book is completely without value, however, I don't see it as a panacea for solving important behavioral challenges some people face.

Rubin does not include any scientific data or explain fully the sample sizes she used to determine what these four tendencies are. Further, she does not have degrees in the behavioral sciences or counseling, nor does she have extensive experience in dealing with the broad range of human behavioral issues - some of which may fall into one of these "four tendencies," but certainly not all.

Human behavior is complex, impacted by factors that go far beyond a certain "tendency." Why does a person consistently place the needs of others before themselves? Are there issues of religious coercion or religious abuse that cause it? Are their issues of self-esteem, an inability to set boundaries based on past abuse or trauma? Are they just fueled by a sense of philanthropy? And those that fall under the "rebel" tendency - is there some other far more complex mental health issue that has impacted their personality?

If there is any merit to Rubin's book is that she infers that we all approach people from their own point of view, not our view of them - seeking to understand how they think, feel, and view the world. However, I believe that the human experience is far too complex to try and pigeon-hole the globe into four amorphous and ill-conceived categories.

I'm not a fan easy answers to difficult questions - and that is what Rubin's book appears to be.

Interesting. I’ve done several personality type quizzes and, while much of the info I already knew, there were a few new insights. ( )

This is a very fast read, especially if you, your husband, and your kids all share the same tendency (we’re all Questioners). Interesting and useful, though I could do without Rubin’s tendency to be smug and all-knowing. Borrow this one from the library. ( )

I'm a big fan of Gretchen Rubin's and passionate about personality/behavior tools that help with understanding ourselves and others. This book was a perfect elixir. I'm an Obliger, wife of an Obliger, and mother to two teenagers that I've surmised are an Upholder and a Rebel.

I've encouraged others at work to take the quiz since it's been so helpful to me on discovering new ways to communicate at home and meet my own internal expectations. The latter seemed so selfish to me before - however with a different lens, it's become clear, I need to do things that are just for me. ( )