The Rose Guardian
by Lorina Stephens
Five Rivers Publishing, 2019. 317 pp.

It starts with a funeral.

Una Cotter is dead, and her sixty-something daughter, Vi, is left to sort out her feelings about her mother, her family, her childhood, and her ambiguous inheritance. One cannot but grieve the passing of one’s mother, but when Una Cotter was your mom, it’s complicated.

This is a quiet, thoughtful book that will appeal to anyone working through the loss of a parent—or their own midlife crisis. Lorina Stephens paints a multi-layered canvas of loss and release, of denial and self-examination, of blame and understanding. The portraiture that emerges as each layer is laid down is a complex and nuanced examination of three generations of women, each the product of their era, but also slightly out of phase. Vi learns much that had been hidden when she inherits Una's diaries, but it's Vi's re-examination of her own childhood that provides the greatest insights into her family's dynamic, and the need to understand and come to terms with her own issues.

There is a lot of food for thought here, and what I liked most about the book was its undercurrent of resigned optimism. Life is what it is, you can't change the past, you can't change other people, but you can change your own perceptions and reactions. Looking back, and then letting go of who you were, might just be the best way forward.

Of course, any great book is about more than just the central theme. I loved the multifaceted character of Vi as a competent, compassionate, and creative woman. While those around her are starting to worry she may be losing it, we see that she is just now coming into her own as both an artist and a woman suddenly freed of a weight she has been carrying. I loved the intimate descriptions of the painter at her canvas, both for the technical descriptions and as a central metaphor. I loved the characterization of her relationship with her ex and her uncle, both worthy men. And best of all, I loved her characterization of the ghost (did I mention there's a ghost?), the mystery child who first appears at the funeral. Stephens gets inside the ghost-child's head to show us the true magic of childhood—which is to say, often very dark magic, a terrifying world of monsters with only the Rose Guardian between you and chaos. I recognized several of the nightmares from my own childhood, and glimpsed some of my daughter's still current fears, and if these scenes don't resonate with you, you must have had an exceptional childhood . . . or a selectively poor memory.

Stephens depicts people coping with their lives and each other as best they can, such that in the end, they are all sympathetically portrayed, even Una. This is the family next door, or down the block, or possibly people you recognize in your own extended family. I'm glad I've met them, glad Vi is doing okay . . . and I really like this new direction in Vi's paintings. ( )

The Rose Guardian is the beautifully told story of an adult daughter still trying to get past the damage her now deceased mother had inflicted on her life. This is both a powerful and moving story that is told with sensitivity and heart. Masterfully crafted, this book is well worth reading. Highly recommended.

I received a complimentary copy of this book through the Early Reviewers program. The opinions expressed in this review are my own. ( )

The Rose Guardian -- Early reviewer for Library Thing
This is a journey of relationships and relativity as told though the eyes of an artist (and authored by an artist of both color and words). It touches on the relationship of the mother to her children and how her pain attacks them, leaving them marked for life also. It reflects upon the influence of childhood on the adults they become and it allows for a quiet escape—at least for one.
This story is layered and beautifully written. The author moves through the ribbons that tie mother to daughter both as a child and after she had grown. Their threads are unusually knotted and nearly strangle both. One breaks through (in part) because of developing a family business, the other breaks free through her art coupled with the courage to look at her mother’s truth.
The writing is absolutely beautiful. The author is especially adept at entering the child’s mind and explaining actions that adults would view as strange. The language, the erroneous definitions and the innocence all transport the reader back to the bewildering time before adulthood. The hurt of being punished because of misunderstandings comes back to the reader—the injustice people visit upon children in the name of “helping them grow-up”. The child’s realization of the end of her own childhood is spot on.
The author uses art to set the daughter on a course of independence. Clearly, the writer is also an artist herself. She understands the paints and the processes, but she also understands the difference between a pretty picture and self-expression. Her main character has reached a level of success by painting what others want to see (mirroring the way she has tried to live the life others expected of her). When she starts to paint “dreams”, she begins her journey to freedom.
It is a triumphant story about a lot of sad people. Triumph does not bring huge changes or any candy coating—it is a realistic and quiet “win”. ( )