Julie Schwartz Gottman
Författare till Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage: America's Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship
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Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage: America's Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your… (2006) — Författare — 230 exemplar
10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) (2015) 39 exemplar
The Science of Couples and Family Therapy: Behind the Scenes at the "Love Lab" (2018) — Författare — 8 exemplar
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Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage: America's… av John M. Gottman
Good stuff for all relationships. I liked the lengthy examples. They really helped to illustrate each point. Slightly repetitive of the same ideas from his 7 points in the other book.
After finishing this book, I made a note in Evernote for each chapter that I can use todo the exercises.
I was initially disappointed that instead of ten points, it was ten stories of couples that came in for counseling. But as I read them, I realized that each couple was there to illustrate an important way to improve a relationship. Thus, I want to go back through it to study by doing the exercises completely instead of just a quick pass in my head.
I was initially disappointed that instead of ten points, it was ten stories of couples that came in for counseling. But as I read them, I realized that each couple was there to illustrate an important way to improve a relationship. Thus, I want to go back through it to study by doing the exercises completely instead of just a quick pass in my head.
More helpful exercises that can make a Great Dates topic or marriage prep activity
Good book on communication, but uneven even there. Some notes:
Ask explatory questions, develop curiousity about other people's experiences and learn to listen. "Can you tell me more about this? Explain what you mean."
Present challenges and differences without criticizing.
Express and accept appreciation.
Recognize when you're stressed and take steps to relax.
Say what you're feeling and what you want and need, even if it's difficult.
Listen and respond to another's feelings and wants and needs before reassuring and before trying to solve the problem.
Respond to criticism with the honest question: "What do you want?"
Hear the longing in a complaint.
On messing up: "I feel terrible about this. What can I do to make it up to you? I would also like your understanding and support."
Respond to non-responsiveness: I really want you to understand my feelings here.… (mer)
Ask explatory questions, develop curiousity about other people's experiences and learn to listen. "Can you tell me more about this? Explain what you mean."
Present challenges and differences without criticizing.
Express and accept appreciation.
Recognize when you're stressed and take steps to relax.
Say what you're feeling and what you want and need, even if it's difficult.
Listen and respond to another's feelings and wants and needs before reassuring and before trying to solve the problem.
Respond to criticism with the honest question: "What do you want?"
Hear the longing in a complaint.
On messing up: "I feel terrible about this. What can I do to make it up to you? I would also like your understanding and support."
Respond to non-responsiveness: I really want you to understand my feelings here.… (mer)
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